Festinger's Law
Festinger, an American social psychologist, has a famous theory, "Festinger's Law": 10% of your life is made up of what happens to you, and the other 90% is made up of what happens to you How things react is decided.
Festinger cites an example to illustrate this rule in detail. When Kastin took a shower in the morning, he put his high-end watch beside the sink. His wife was afraid of getting wet, so she took it and put it on the dining table. When my son got up and went to the table to get bread, he accidentally hit the ground and broke his watch. Casting felt distressed about the watch, so he beat his son's butt, and then scolded his wife with a cold face. His wife was not convinced and quarreled fiercely with him. In a fit of rage, Kastin drove directly to the company. When he was about to arrive at the company, he remembered that he forgot to take his briefcase, and immediately turned back home. But there was no one at home, so Kastin had to call his wife's phone to get the keys. When the wife rushed home in a hurry, she knocked over a fruit stand on the side of the road, and she had to lose a sum of money before leaving. After the door opened to get the briefcase, Kastin was 15 minutes late and was severely criticized by his boss. Before leaving get off work, he quarreled with a colleague because of a trivial matter. The wife was also deducted the full attendance bonus of the month for being late. My son participated in a baseball game that day, but was eliminated because he was in a bad mood and did not perform well.
In this case, the broken watch is 10% of them, and the series of events that follow are the other 90%. It is all because the parties did not control the 90% well, which led to this day becoming a "disturbing day". Just imagine, after the 10% occurrence of Kastin, if he changed his reaction, for example, comforting his son: "It doesn't matter, the watch is broken, it's fine, I'll fix it." In this way, the son is happy, and the wife is also happy, If he is in a good mood, then everything that follows will not happen. It can be seen that you cannot control the first 10%, but you can completely determine the remaining 90% through your attitude and behavior.