The word "persistence" is familiar to everyone. People always say: "If you want to do something well, you must persevere to the end." "Persistence is victory!" I learned these words right at first, but thinking about it, I had a problem with them. Why do you say that? Through the surface of the word " persistence ", we think about the meaning behind it : " I didn't want to do this, and it was impossible for me to complete it, but I have to work hard to do it, grit my teeth, and go through all my life. It 's hard to go on ..." This is a big question, what is the motivation for us to do something? What was the original intention? If we want to do something, but we don’t have the right source of motivation, and we only tell ourselves to “persist” every day, I don’t think it can be done well, nor can it last for a long time. Even if we do it successfully, it will only be temporary.
Since I started college, I basically stopped exercising, and my physical condition was declining day by day, but I never realized this problem. After working for many years, I ran a few steps (in fact, it was less than 50 meters) in order to catch up with the bus. After getting on the bus, I only felt that the world was spinning, my eyes were black, and I almost fainted. I held the railing with both hands. It took a long time to slowly return to normal. I was very scared. I was only 30 years old, how could my body become like this? Because I work in programming, I take the bus to and from work every day, and I sit in front of the computer at get off work and at home, and I hardly exercise. So my body got worse and worse. From that day on, I started exercising every day, but I was lazy and exercising was a pain for me. But for the sake of good health, I had to grit my teeth. I say to myself every day, "I have to persevere, persevere, persevere." After more than a year, my weight has dropped from 200 to 150 pounds, and my health has gradually improved. My body has become stronger and my mental state has become better. come better. So I felt that I had succeeded, and I thought that since I was in good shape, the exercise could come to an end. So after another year, my weight slowly rebounded back to 200 pounds.
I started to reflect, trying to find the cause of the problem, why am I so lazy? Haven't I been yelling "hold on" all the time? Do I really have no willpower? Didn't stick to it? Later, I changed my strategy, and I started to exercise again. This time, the effect was much better. I have been exercising until now, and my body has been very good. But this time, instead of saying "persistence" to myself every day, I said, "I love sports! I love health! I exercise, I am happy!" Subtly affects our thinking, thereby changing our lives. Think carefully about the psychological implication of the word "persistence": "I didn't want to do this, and I couldn't finish it, but I have to work hard, grit my teeth, and go through all the hardships. I succeed, even temporarily, and I don't want to do it, because I don't want to do it at all, I don't want to do these things at all." Another way is to give yourself a psychological suggestion: " I like to do this I love it, I don't feel pain at all when I do it, it's a joy. I'll keep doing it because it's my biggest source of motivation! "
For example, quitting smoking, I know that many people's quit smoking ended in failure. Some of them persisted for three days, some persisted for three months, some persisted for three years, and some persisted for a longer time, such as my father, Quit smoking for eight years, but eventually relapsed. And I also smoked for seven or eight years, and the process of quitting smoking was also very painful. At first, I persisted for a while like them, but I still failed, because the word "persistence" implied to me that I didn't like it. Quit smoking, I like smoking, I'm holding on, so I'm miserable. Later, I read a book on smoking cessation, which analyzed the essence of smoking in detail, saying that the essence of smoking addiction is nothing but nicotine withdrawal symptoms, and the health status and happiness of non-smokers are far higher than that of smokers. We should like the normal life, like a healthy and happy body, like a quick and optimistic mind. Later, I finally quit smoking. Instead of saying "persist" to myself, I said to myself: "I like a smoke-free state, and I love health." I have never relapsed until today. I will never smoke again in my lifetime.
所以，不要再去说什么“坚持”。这是一个很危险的词语，这就像是在你长跑时身后总有个人在反方向拉着你一样，就像你的负担，就像你的累赘。爱因斯坦说：“兴趣是最好的老师。”如果我们对某一种事物有极大的兴趣，那么在这种动力的驱使下，会比那些根本不喜欢做这些事却不得不“坚持”着做的那些人做的好的多，路也比他们走的远的多。最后，希望我们用自己的兴趣和喜爱来做那些对我们有意义的事情，而不是嘴里喊着“坚持”心里却痛苦无比的做着自己根本不喜欢做的事。
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