CC4 expression - win or lose

"I want to win, no matter what it takes, I have to win!" When I win, "I won! (cheers)". When I lose "No, I don't want to lose. Not happy. (depressed)". Are you familiar with such a scene? I've been winning and losing all my life. In the past, in order to win a game, I would spend a lot of time repeating the practice. In order to convince others to agree with my point of view, I would fight with others red-faced; in order to win a quarrel, I would sting my dearest with the most painful words. Man; it was all about winning, but looking back, did I really win? What exactly did I win? What have I lost?

Regarding winning and losing, Chinese chess is a good interpretation of winning and losing. Two years ago, I fell in love with Chinese chess. At the beginning, I was just a rookie. I have met many masters. They are cleverly laid out, well designed, and often give me some sweetness to jump into their traps. It's like a mousetrap with a big piece of cheese on it, and I'm the little mouse, and when I see the cheese, I jump on it. Then firmly clamped by the mouse trap, (like a mouse call). I was dying, chagrined at my stupidity and impulsiveness. They laughed at me "brain, use your brain, oh, I forgot, you don't seem to have!". I'm like an angry gorilla. I lost, lost in vision. I can't just forget the danger behind the cheese in front of me. I want to look further and understand the intention of the other party. Then just count on it and take him down. Slowly I started to win!

     Then I met some god-like opponents who could beat me effortlessly. Once I met a very perverted player, he already had an absolute advantage, but instead of killing you in the fastest way, he took your pieces one by one, starting from pawns, until In the end there was only one marshal left. He enjoys the perverted thrill of IQ crushing you. Do you know how this feels? It's like a 1.8-meter person saying to a 1.4-meter person: "My little one, the air above is very fresh." Have you experienced that feeling? (I stomped angrily) My thoughts were dominated by emotions, dominated by obsessions, I couldn't think calmly, and I was constantly being played around by him. I stomped my feet angrily, this kind of person is so hateful Now, I decided to fight with him. Later, I adopted the method that Sima Yi used to deal with Zhuge Liang - patience. I was visiting the West Lake at that time, I just walked for three minutes, and then the next chess move, he would take my piece Guang, he had to wait for an hour. He finally got impatient and ran away. I won. It turns out that you can win with patience.
 
     Later, I met a master, he was a gentleman, he would teach me how to play chess, let me I regretted chess. One time I was about to lose. I remembered patience again. He saw that I was playing so slowly and asked, "Why are you playing so slowly?" I told him, "I know I can't play you, and I want to compete with you. Patience". He said: "Hahaha, that's how it is, so what's the defense if you win! ". Immediately on the screen of the mobile phone, it showed that he admitted defeat. I stared at the screen sluggishly. Did I win? No! I lost again, and lost in the pattern. This master is the real enlightenment, seeing through winning and losing. Before The time with the perverted player, I also lost, I lost in my bearing and mind. Like this gentleman player, I can let go of my obsession and say: You are really good, I admit defeat.
 
In our life, We may quarrel with our friends, relatives, and lovers over some trivial matters. Sometimes we are not to defend the truth, but to convince each other that I am right and you are wrong. But did we really win? What did we win? What? What exactly did we lose? The next time we're arguing with someone, we say, "Okay, you're beautiful, and everything makes sense. "When we are fighting against others to win or lose, we say: "Okay, you are really good, I admit defeat, I let you win!" ". We concede, do we really lose? We give everything and we win, do we really win?