The homecomparison is prevalent and has reached a state of almost abnormality.
Face is more important than lining. Whatever your family has, my family will also have it, and it will be better than yours, or else you will lose face.
If you don't have something in someone's home, someone will come to remind you: You see, there is something in my house, and you don't have it in your house, and then I get a look of satisfaction and go back.
The comparison includes all aspects, house, decoration, wife, grandson, car, etc. Everything you can imagine and what you can't imagine can be compared.
In 2021, it always feels like living in the old society.
My mother often suffers from this, saying that I did not have a family, did not marry a daughter-in-law, did not have a son, so she could not hold her head up in the village. I don't know how to explain to her, she always lives in her own world.
Relatives in the family also expressed their understanding of my mother's worries. I tried to understand her and help her, but I was unable to do anything and sometimes made myself very frustrated.
I have lived away from my hometown for many years. Sometimes I think that if I lived in the environment of my hometown, I would definitely have this kind of thinking, and I would struggle for it all my life.
In the past, I actually believed in materialism more, but now I am slowly beginning to believe in idealism. The same thing, what you believe in it, and what it is depends entirely on the heart.
My environment tells me, to live your own life, don’t pay too much attention to the eyes of others. Everyone’s growth stage is different, so the time of getting married and having children will be different. If you are willing, you should get someone else’s when you are single or unmarried. Respect, everyone should be respected.
My mother's environment told her that at a certain point in time, people must complete the corresponding things and be better than others in order to be respected by others. Only the strong can be respected.
Different living environments have created our different perspectives, and we all work hard and struggle for it. The most important thing is that none of us can convince anyone.