"Human happiness is an activity that we are looking for, and it has nothing to do with others. Many people say that we will be happy only if we are doing well, such as having a big house, car, or others who treat me better. His happiness has nothing to do with others, and it has nothing to do with what we have."
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The real happiness is oneself
Find something willing to do for a lifetime
If we have found one thing, we can do it for a lifetime, and it is beneficial. The so-called benefit is that the more you achieve the end, the greater the satisfaction you get. This is beneficial. If you find it, then doing it is happy in itself.
For example, writing, or learning a technology, learning a language, helping others wisely, etc. There are many things in life that are good for us. Spending more time to do these joyful things is actually a kind of happiness and joy.
Many people have found something they are willing to do for a lifetime. Of course, no matter what happened, it was all plain and plain, nothing surprising. Most of us are ordinary people and will not have a magnificent life. In fact, this is also a kind of happiness.
Plainness is the main theme of life, and finding a small sense of happiness and happiness in a plain life is a way for us to enjoy life. And doing one thing we love is actually increasing a little happiness.
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Our happiness is only related to our inner state,
Has nothing to do with others
Others can't give us the happiness we want. Our happiness will not be based on others. How can we feel happy? It is that we have done something through our own efforts, or in terms of ability, such as expression ability and writing ability. The speech ability, technical ability, etc. have been improved.
This is when we feel joy. Joy is never very strong. Strong joy comes and goes quickly. Joy is a gentle, slow feeling, not very strong, but very long. .
Our long-term efforts are not for a result, but the process of enjoying our efforts. This process itself makes people feel joyful. Most of the improvement in abilities comes from how many days do not feel that one's abilities have changed.
We do it step by step every day. After a long time, suddenly one day, we will feel that our abilities have improved. Then I continued to do it step by step, and after a long period of time, it improved again. This repeated process.
And these processes have nothing to do with others, this is what we have to do, so the happiness produced has nothing to do with others. We have all learned not to build happiness on others. We must base our happiness on ourselves and get a sense of happiness through our own efforts.
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Happiness is not always there,
this is life
No one is always happy, just as the weather is not always sunny. So, what everyone knows is that sometimes you are happy, sometimes you are not happy. That's how life is. It's just that some people are more happy and some are less.
In fact, through some experiences, we will find that true happiness is only obtained after we help others. Our happiness is not passively dependent on others. It's that we take the initiative to give to others. When we take the initiative to help others and make them happy and happy, we also gain more happiness.
For example, writing is also true. Of course we are happy to write ourselves, but when others read it and benefit from it, it makes us happier. Giving is happier than receiving.
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Happiness is not a feeling,
But an action, a continuous action
Our happiness can be produced because we continue to make a certain effort. For example, when we work, we can have income after work and take care of our family. The result of this continuous action is that we can take care of our family, so this is a kind of happiness.
If we do nothing, we will not feel happy, so people are constantly working creatures. No matter what kind of work, cooking, doing housework, learning technology, doing business, going to travel, etc. are all kinds of work. Work is not monotonous, work can make people happy.
Because through work we can better understand the world and ourselves. Only continuous work, purposeful work, and deliberate practice can enhance our cognition and improve our thinking model. Improve our understanding of the world.
When we get to know the world more and more, we will gain greater freedom and live a very happy life.