During that time, the two of them were indeed a bit irrational. Later, I heard Xiaokang say that when she said that he was going to learn computer with him, he was not too happy in his heart. This meant that they did not need to have a long-distance relationship or separate.
In fact, she never thought that she would choose computer as a major, never thought. She said that on the one hand, she didn’t want to repeat her studies, and she didn’t want to go to clinical medicine (her dream was to be a doctor, but she was unrealistic to think about how much she read, maybe she was a little confused at the time), on the other hand Separate from Xiaokang. If you separate, what will happen in the future? Can they still be together? Later, they resolutely chose the same major, went to Chongqing, and spent their college time in Chongqing. It was very good. The whole university, they have the same major, the same classroom, the same head teacher and faculty. What is even more funny is that, Still at the same table,
Her parents always thought whether she was being sold by a pyramid scheme, and they were particularly worried. Later, her father came to Chongqing University Hospital for treatment because of an illness. She only told her father about her school and did not say the address. It was the first time her father and younger brother came to Chongqing. She was a little surprised when she found her school, because her father didn't know much about mobile maps. She thought about it, it should be her younger brother who followed the map. After father came to school, she said, I will take you to meet our head teacher. Dad said No, I know the situation, and then her parents finally believed that she was not MLM. During that time, her family members always called her and said that you must have been MLM and so on, and she was right My parents said, how is it possible? If it is MLM, I can still call you, rest assured, it is not MLM.
Why is it being MLM? Because at the time there were several people who went out to study in their hometown, several of them had been sold by pyramid schemes, and then the parents felt that their children were only 18 years old and the decisions they made were so sudden, so they were suspicious that their children had never been so far. At the door, she was a little worried. At the time, she didn't quite understand the concerns of her parents. She just blindly pursued her ideals, which must have hurt her parents at that time. After slowly settled down, everything was back to normal. My mother always suspected that her daughter was in love. Every time she asked, she refused to admit it. Because she was afraid that her parents would disagree, she kept hiding it, even if she quarreled. recognition. Mother should know everything in her heart, but because of her daughter's face, she pretended not to know.
My mother must have talked about falling in love with my dad. Once my dad went to the street to eat, the person who happened to sell the thing was the well-off mother. Xiaokang and she were in the same town, but they were in different villages. The two chatted and talked about their children,
Her father said: "My daughter has gone to Chongqing to study, studying computer, I don't know if it has been MLM."
Then Xiaokang's mother said: "My son also went to Chongqing, and he is also a computer. Is your daughter called XX."
Oh, but Xiaokang's mother didn't say that the two of them were in love or something, his mother guessed it.
In the evening, her father asked her and said: "Are you going to the school in our town", and just said one thing.
She panicked. She quickly said that I went with our classmates. There are so many people. I don't know who you said, so many people. How do I know? Did you listen to what others said. She thought her father knew that she was in love. She kept explaining and explaining, and she was flustered. She didn't know that her father just mentioned it. She didn't expect her to be so excited. She also sent a lot of messages to her father, saying: "You Don’t believe other people’s words, can you believe me?” Maybe her reaction was too big, which caused her father to have to doubt. Mom knew about it and asked her. Anyway, it’s a lot of dating. She always explained things like that. Mom said: "You will study hard and fall in love and talk about it later." She explained: "I don't have any. I'm so busy studying every day. How can I have time to fall in love? Study hard, don’t worry.” Later, this incident finally passed. She never contacted her father because she felt that her father might be angry, and she didn’t want to explain. I remember that she had no living expenses, and then asked her father, so she spoke, and the incident passed.
Why do you keep hiding things like dating? Maybe not every child can confess his concerns to his parents, she belongs to that kind, hiding everything by herself. She also wants to be very close to her parents and talk to her parents about everything, but she can't do it. She is afraid, but she looks forward to it and dare not try.
How should I put it, my grandmother always said that after reading the book, I will slowly find someone if I have a job, and my parents too. This indirectly led to the reason why she didn't dare to tell her parents when she fell in love, for fear that her parents would be disappointed in her. Everyone’s understanding is different. Adults hope that their children will have a good home. They think it’s a good thing to find someone slowly when they have a job. Don’t talk about extra love, especially in school. Very cute thing: Grandma told her not to play with boys, haha, she replied: OK, um. Actually, how could it be like this? She promised her grandma on the surface and made friends in private. But the children don't understand it this way. In short, let's just let the feelings happen.
This might be the case for the country folks. A girl takes a boy home. Whether it is a classmate, a friend, or whatever, there will be countless gossips. On the contrary, when a boy takes a girl home, none of them can say bad things about the boy, some are praise. This kind of thing is no surprise. Differences between men and women
When she was a freshman, she joined the English Association. Generally, she was new to school and met some friends. Xiaokang joined the Association for Programming (but not the Computer Association), but a special learning association established by the school boss. , There are not so many trivial matters in other associations. Maybe this is the change. Xiaokang is still very good in programming. It is also ranked high in school. It is about the top three in the class. In fact, in her heart, Xiaokang is No.1, because Xiaokang is really excellent. Who would have thought that one who had such a low grade in high school, is now so good in college, this is the importance of choosing a major!
Of course she’s not bad, but she’s inferior to Xiaokang. In her sophomore year, she became the squad leader and had a lot of trivial matters. Anyway, as a squad leader, everyone knows how to run errands for a while. The advantage is that the teacher remembers you and thinks of you first, so she has won several scholarships and grants. Of course, it is inseparable from her efforts. Xiaokang has also received several scholarships.
Because there is a reason, so there is a reason. Since it has been done, why bother to say why.
The whole university period was pretty good, there was not so much time to go to the mountains and water, because they are really busy, a week, 5 days full class, sometimes evening study at night, other schools have classes to go to However, you can arrange freely if there is no class, they are different. But it’s pretty good, so you can learn more.
The junior college came out for an internship. She and Xiaokang came to Hangzhou. There were also a few friends from different majors, java, full stack, php, .net, interior design, new media, etc. Individual friends came together, and some changed careers. Some went to different cities, and everyone started to go their separate ways. I have experienced too many things in this year and a half, and I also learned a lot. I went to Chongqing in mid-July 2018 and came to Hangzhou on March 26, 2020 to find a job. The time seems to be quite short. Time spent at school It’s not long. I will officially graduate in July next year. There have been too many things happening around me. I can’t count them. People who are 20 years old have suddenly seen through a lot. This is why the post-00s mature early and may be precocious. Right.
It was really not easy when I first came out, and it was very different from school. Probably this is growth. It is not easy for everyone, and they are living hard.
In the past, no girl or boy dreamed of having a car, a house and a deposit, but they grew up later.