A fundamental law of nature, in order to win power, people must strive to push the envelope, which is painful.
Painful four stages
• Phase I - do not know they can not.
In case you did not realize, it happened a second class javelin reaction: you forgot to buy milk lover back, you angrily complaining about a few, totally unaware of his reaction too far.
• Phase II - know that they can not.
You have realized that they have been (broadly ) of "greed" and "angry" to hijack, but can not control myself: inner struggle, not knowing, but still could not help muttering milk thing.
• Phase III - know their lines.
Sentiment is still there, but you can not control the burst out: Do you feel irritable, and remind yourself that you love to have you done enough, angry will only make things worse.
• The fourth stage - do not know their lines.
Absolutely no emotion, sometimes simply forget you even have this sort of thing: Do you know the family did not milk, but you just love to calmly point out now how to do it.
In fact, the pain in essence, is a breakthrough self. Because the brain's subconscious speaking, the brain actually want to escape.
Only when you cross the painful stage, and then retrospect, temper forward! You will discover that in this world there is so much space waiting for you to discover.
