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"Do not worry about your word is good-looking, do not be afraid your idea is ridiculous, let your word like a rainstorm hit the same sheet, it will play a river, the river beyond time, past snow-capped mountains of the source, and the future of the sea at the end, there are colleagues. "
- Lian Yue
Today is my aunt "buried" days, out of sentiment and affection, I took a day off. 5:00 wake up mom, or as in the past urged, for fear of being "prolonged" We held up the hour. This is her character, rather an hour earlier are not willing to suffer for ten minutes. She did not dare to do us much nagging son, after all, there is a layer of generational purchasing, and we are at the moment. So, she would give vent to their anger at her husband who is my father. Get up, old father Bengzhuo a look at the mobile phone sitting on the living room quietly, of course, with our tone of voice is not very harmonious. I quickly called a face wash to keep up with old mother, lest she Jijiwaiwai everywhere.
This traditional practices I went through a total of three times. The first was my grandmother, as if I was in second grade reading things, feel the experience has been very vague. The second time was my grandfather, six years ago to do it, is what I just did my father, when the deepest impression feeling is if the Father to go a few months later you can see that he, like most of his great-granddaughter. Although Father had to take the time 94 years old, if still alive, then, it is this year his 100 years old. There is no time to pity, as I experienced the third time today. While dragging heavy eyelids, but every body movement after the elders were busy before the busy as well as their psychological feelings can look in their eyes. Although it is traditional, but obviously I did not have too many could feel the breath of the tradition. In addition to those smoky ignition remains unchanged, the more elders to share their inner consolation go have simplified the process. Not comfort the dead, but in the comfort of their own. Including my uncle also stressed, do not get too complicated, just do for yourself only. This is the first time I felt that I was "lazy" uncle is the most rational and true. I clearly see that she had changed, not the uncle changed. In the eyes of my mother, uncle of attitude and image of ridicule or contempt, as always. Even just buried in the grave aunt, my mother was still his various discussions with other women in front of elders is not.
I do not feel today is a ritual, a more dilute the ritual ceremony. And can not say to abandon the traditional, but gradually transition to another tradition, and this new tradition rooted in our younger everyone's heart. Those so-called respect for the past, in fact, to respect themselves. Modern people for their attention more, the low level of Tonghua outside, and I said the ritual process is like outside today, and not too many memories of the dead, but of their current situation and future thinking. See the surface is cold, in fact, we can be more open to self-restraint, which is a good thing. In fact, we see all kinds of "bad", are the traditional vision of the role played by, for example, as cold today. To think for themselves, take good care of themselves, protect themselves, is the world a better starting point.