Life is a long-term and sustained accumulation process
Taiwan Dept Peng Minghui
Many students should all remember the eve of exam anxiety: by one point might have to drop several volunteers, and even the fate of his life would change! To a senior, this anxiety may be more intense and complex: in the end the army first, employment, or Institute Xiankao? I often encounter full of anxious students asked me these questions. However, these anxiety it is unwarranted! Life is a long-term and sustained accumulation process will not be because of a single event and ruin a person's life, not because of a single event and saved a man's life. Ours deserve, sooner or later will be; we should not have to belong to, even if lucky enough to get too clever not long retain. If we see this fact, many so-called "big choices in life" can be at the indifferent, no need to anxiety. The so-called "Life's Dilemma", also tend to become no foot peg teeth.
I'm a living example. From the university decided not to enter graduate school, so most of the time four years of university study in the humanities thing. After graduation worked for several years before deciding to graduate school. After graduating from master's degree, she determined to stand: no longer studying for the diploma. Who knows, things are unpredictable, after five years as a lecturer, I was forced by the current situation, PhD abroad. When abroad, college classmates laugh at me: the latest class of PhD should come home, you just have to go out now? Two years later I came back from Cambridge, feel the impermanence of life experience, Mo this is staggering: a man decided to no longer seek personal gain from freshman degree, master's and doctoral not even have to get up! Ours deserve, Which had been less? The life that was and how much not deserve, we ever know? Since then I can not be more indifferent to the fate of the issue.
When the time lecturer, some students will face more extreme attitude showed their disdain; returned from Cambridge, as a student but was an incredible thing to look. Such ups and downs on the surface, in fact, is a good thing man 's tongue, totally not the truth of the facts. On the surface, two years to get a PhD in Cambridge, this seems to be great. However, before the last two years I've spent a whole year, the research on the topic read all the papers, and to identify research; and has spent three years before more control to do research, and the world's leading academic journals published. The time to graduate from the Master Na Boshi, during the seven years I never stopped research and self-study. So, this is actually Dr. accumulated seven years of achievement, or just count my time is spent cybernetic door, there are at least five years, there is also nothing surprising.
Ordinary people are not cumulative and sustained process to look at the long-term savings and life because of some achievements, old love on the surface to break and isolated incident exaggerated talk, so often forced a resurrection on the bland event. But for me, the period when the lecturer was looked down upon students and Cambridge students just come back when it is exaggerated skill, are just skin deep. The truth is: I only care about accumulated more than 20 hours a day, bit by bit.
His master's degree or PhD just given moment in these results accumulated external display only, the cumulative real life but had never hit these events termination or addition.
Students often full of anxiety asked me: "Teacher, I would like to finish as soldiers, work a year or two and then test Institute that alright.?"
"Well, first with a chance like this to prove theoretical practice, you will know more than others to graduate school what they want is."
"But I'm afraid the soldiers when they finish work, will lose morale, so the test into the Institute."
"Then you Xiankao Institute good."
"But, if I would like to graduate school, when I was afraid I would like to go to university as a loss, so do not want to read the unwilling."
"Do you still go to work better!"
"but......"
I can understand their anxiety, but it can not be repressed emotion for such things. In fact, the truth is that he needs the Institute for two years plus two years of work, in order to deepen the breadth and depth of knowledge and access to practical experience. To work or to further education, on the surface of vastly different, in fact, the bones of the fundamental difference is negligible.
In the "fast and loose" the idiom story, the original owner of acorn-fed monkeys are "three morning and four afternoon", later changed to "fast and loose", the monkey was unhappy and insisted back to "toward the four evening three." In fact, the first work or to studies, there are differences in the period as "fast and loose" with "Twilight towards four three", the original is not worth the fuss. However, we often do not see this kind of accumulation and sustained long-term course of life, old love the moment in the fate of small differences exaggerated to the point of life and death.
The most ironic is that: When we are faced with two possible scenarios, anxiety may not know how to choose, usually expressed both programs might be as good, or as bad, so actually choose which are the same, the only difference has the order only. Moreover, the more anxious to let us badly, in fact, the smaller the difference, the more not worth the anxiety. But when the real significant difference between good and bad, we easily know how to do it. But we often do not see the long-term future, staring at the short-sighted short-term gains and losses in the two cases: A case want to choose, could not bear the benefits of Yian; Yian want to choose, they could not bear the benefits armor case. If you see far enough, human growth is eighty or ninety, as short as 50 or 60 years, what do first thing what is the relationship? When the soldiers even after they finish work, then spent a whole year preparing Institute, what is amazing? Of course, some people will still worried, he said: "When I finish work and soldiers will not be because of family responsibilities or memory loss and more difficult to be admitted to the Institute?" I can only reply: "A man pass the test Institute only two possibilities: or he not smart enough, or smart enough that he did not smart enough to pass the test, that's nothing to complain about if you're smart enough, the Institute also pass the test, I can only say that your determination. not strong enough. If you are determined not strong enough, it means your life, there are other possibilities, its importance and no less than a master's degree, and you could not bear to leave him. that being the case, there is no need to feel sorry pass the test Institute is not it?
"Way of life so much, why should we care about the old with a possibility?"
My best friend in high school, and his bad luck: High School exam twice, a high read twice, the University took the test twice, and even motorcycle driver's license exam twice. After graduation, he told himself: I have no relationship, no education, only by sincere and redouble their efforts. Now, he owns a company, the annual income of tens of millions.
A person is not well in the course of their studies, and success in his career, this is a common thing. Talented people, will not be rejected because of joint and several schools and lose his talent, only to find another place for his performance only. Conversely, a person who is successful in the course of their studies, thus inevitably can not bring themselves to go into business, but only obediently on salary.
Fu Xi Misfortune, who knows? We have nothing to proud? What good worried? Life gains and losses, and sometimes I do not know exactly how, but sometimes he could not be easier: We normally get accumulated results, but we did not lose the accumulated efforts! So important is not achievement than others, but try to do what you want. Finally, the less you will not get a point, you should not get more than you will not be a minute.
Seems to be the year before last, I met a high school classmate. When he was an associate professor of electrical engineering at a large Southern California, he was appointed Tsinghua motors come back to open short courses. He is very hard from high school, after the motor at National Taiwan University first choice, four years have to take the book prize, he believed in the professional research has also been Zhuoranyoucheng. Recall for high school, the two of us in the intelligence test scores separated first full academic year, second place. But from a high I'll never give up their love of literature, music, calligraphy, art and philosophy, and he was always never distracted, so two people in the academic gap will only farther away. Conversely, it satisfies me more than two decades in the field of humanities acquired, I am afraid that he can understand the far. My wife asked me if I was willing to fully focus on one area of research that is not at least catch up with the achievements of the students? I do not think so, two different temperaments of people, destined to go two different routes. Not deserve something, we are not doomed, and casually take more than two people, only to see he got, but can not see he had lost, what's the point?
There are times I Tsinghua radio interview: "? The teacher how you face difficulties in your life." I froze on the spot where, how and when I can not think that there have been difficulties! Later careful retrospect, it was found: I had not without difficulties, but the situation is treated as "dilemma" of ordinary people, as I have a moment of fortune, he did not care about it. Just out of the army, the eldest son has been born still can not find work. I have had anxiety, but that sooner or later there will be work, that does not mean ridiculously low pay, did not mind too much. During the study master's household thanks to his wife's salary, he lives frugally, but not really for me predicament. As a mentally I had a very full, and secondly, I know all of this is to give yourself a chance to change jobs to teach (do what you want to do). Thirty-one just to go abroad, and to teach students going back to the department, I was nervous (I do not know how strict the requirements of Cambridge), but not have it bad. Because I know in the past has been very hard, but also very satisfied with the experience and results, but others can not see it.
I never had trouble because I do not care about gains and losses from external, arbitrary and does not compete with others, and only care about their own inner truth of accumulation.
I never had trouble because I did realize: Life is a long-term and sustained accumulation process will not be because of a single event and have dramatic ups and downs.
I also believe: that belongs to us too, sooner or later will be; we should not have to belong, even a minute can not be increased. If you can hold the same beliefs, then you will be in life is broad and long-term, there is nothing extraordinary in the "dilemma", have nothing of the anxiety.