3. career planning, learning, love
1) How to do career planning
For the planning profession, and because of the traditional concept of education, most people are just stuck in what I can do (to learn what professional) went to work on what this view. Of course, if you just want to work to solve the problem of food and clothing, and finding a job is understandable. But if starting from the next life if happiness and joy, whether their personality strengths to play, to do things whether handy, if his mind and so smoothly perspective, I think we should need to think about something more on career planning, understanding their career development.
Because seen a lot of friends, but also including myself, had selected the wrong career direction, he does not like to do the work, but delayed a lot of valuable time. A friend is now a large company executives, are strong, although efforts to deal with things that can ease, but it has been working together very happy, could not get to God, and even have been more resistant, only with perseverance to overcome; there are a few friends, many years later only to find the current career is not what you want, do what you like to re-cross career, work experience re-accumulation; I myself almost year, the sales industry has entered a period of time, every day need to use willpower to stick to overcome psychological barriers, to face all kinds of customers and business meetings, but fortunately in time to withdraw, or likely to suffer from depression.
Real career plan, first thing to do in-depth understanding of their own, understand their own talents and strengths to do with their own advantages and consistent like to work for this kind of work, you do not need to adhere to the first and perseverance will always enjoy every day enjoy the fun of work, you can easily put ten thousand hours of in, make yourself happy learning among and growth, so as to achieve expert level. Day after day, year after year, rather than numb and painful to work with, even to make a point score, and even become executives, but to go deep down without the slightest sense of accomplishment.
First job is very important, because a lot of people just choose the first job, and then continued for a lifetime. The middle want to change other occupations, they found themselves to be bound by existing work and life experience with pressure, not easy to replace, because of the change to the new occupation, work experience may need to re-accumulate, worried that they can not adapt or economic burden on yourself can not change.
Of course, if you really do not know what works for you, you can also pick out multiple directions, and more to try to take advantage of the young, the only experience you know what is best for them. When you find a career not for themselves, but also act decisively and timely replacement.
And understand their career direction in the future, the next step is to understand that the position requires the ability of those aspects, on the one hand to invest time and effort to learn; on the other hand to find companies and jobs in line with the profession, or to find ways to lower their requirements, and strive to become the post staff to Daguai upgrade from work.
Of course, if you do not get the job, you can also consider using a strategy roundabout, first try to do the job with the job-related, by learning to grow, and then gradually work up to your favorite.
As for career advancement path, if you do is your favorite occupation, this did not really need to do much planning will fall into place. Because of your love and commitment, and you will unknowingly, has more than ten thousand hours of investment, you will be avid to learn and grow, try to seize every favorable opportunity, from which it is easy to become an expert in the field. Then you can have more opportunities and options, as long as you follow the original mind to do, to learn and grow, the result is you most want.
2) practical experience invaluable
Company recruiters come in, he is required can produce as soon as possible, because any company not long recruiters can not do something for nothing possessor. So the choice of almost every person to see if there is enough work experience, can quickly enter the work state to complete the work task, practical experience or relevant experience of the project is very precious.
For students or recent graduates who may try to free or low-paid paid into the company, to acquire relevant work experience as a stepping stone to future career development. Biased technical professional personnel, can at school or work free time, try to develop related products, or analog implementation-related projects, and make out, add more items for their experience, competitiveness will be greatly enhanced.
While at work, if you can often take the initiative to "grab mission", often stand to do their own project to create a product point of view, then you can easily surpass others, to accumulate enough project experience, a chance to do burst out goods products, but these experiences will add more glory to your resume, so you have more room for career development (much like the case).
3) how to read would be useful
Surrounded by many of my friends like to read, there are a lot of people still reading a lot of books. Some of which friend once said, read so many books, it did not seem to help much. I believe a lot of people listening to these words are cut to the heart.
Why the same reading, some people can knowledge into the book for their skills, while others can only be used to pass the time, entertaining. Because different people read different purposes, the method is not the same.
For these types of people have read:
The first reading is only for entertainment, books from start to finish, see the inside story is, or is beautiful statement, or method program (solutions), looked just looked, I thought possible when looking at be touched. We made some mental pleasure, but there is no depth to think, after reading the book aside when no longer go with it, so look for more books they are of little help, as can only talk or growth experience.
The second group is holding the attitude of learning to read, to see the process will take notes, will switch off main points of the book recorded. They harvested from the book many thought, mind maps and a chapter notes, have learned to become part of the knowledge accumulated, and can really transformed landing but not too much.
The third category of people are pragmatic people, they will not only take notes while reading the contents of the record more of their own perception in the reading process, and will see the contents of dialectical thinking, with their work or life link, thinking learned how to apply to the content of the work or life. They said in their reading, they might as well say that by reading, writing a book of their own experiences or thoughts. These people will see the best interests of the learned, into a part of their skills, the pace of growth and progress is clearly visible.
So say the same reading in the three countries, and some people harvest is a wonderful story; some people will write it as a story through a historical novel, rewrite history; while others apply it to business management among.
4) only in books to learn the knowledge you
Not only need to learn to read, but also "OK", go to practice, in order to achieve unity of knowledge.
Many people know that learning pyramid, listening, reading, demonstration, discussion, exercises, teaching and application of different learning levels, harvest the results vary widely. As the saying goes the saying ten thousand books, learning also need to experience the latitude to think, to really learn and apply to work or life.
如果不去过荒漠，怎么能体验“大漠孤雁直，长河落日圆”的意境；
不去做项目，怎么知道一个软件项目从立项、战略分析、需求分析、产品设计、架构设计、编码、测试、上线、维护等等各个环节，有那么多的坑等着你去踩呢？
不去见见客户，怎么能理解同样的产品，在不同地区、不同行业、不同的用户群体、文化教育水平、固化思维、使用习惯、年龄性别、网格环境、手机机型……等等，有那么大的区别呢？在办公室里反复测试使用都没有问题的产品，放到实际使用中，就会有各种各样的问题。
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所以要想真正学会并理解掌握，需要去体验、去实践，还需要去做各种的输出练习，比如写博文、教学讲解等等，才能真正做到学以致用。
一本书不仅需要将它读薄（转化为思维导图或笔记摘要），还要将它读厚了（撰写读后感，将自己的知识、经历、实践都记录下来），这样才能将书中所学到的知识真正转化，成为自己能力中的一部分。
5）7 条实用技能告别单身贵族
身边还有不少单着的朋友，我觉得书中的这几条建议非常好，小伙伴们可以尝试一下看看是否有用。
a. 增加目标对象的基数
如果你接触的异性对象只有个位数或十位数，那想要找到合适的人选比例可想而知，想办法增加你的目标对象基数，在统计学的概率上来讲，机会也会大很多。
b. 增加样本选择的典型性
如果你只在某个小圈子里认识人，俗话说物以类聚，在这小圈子里的人要么你早就筛选过了，要么同样被你看中的也可能早被圈子中其他中挑走了，因为同样在圈子里挑人的其他人，眼光爱好可能跟你也差不多。
所以需要扩大你的圈子类型，比如说尝试进入户外、旅游、金融投资、公益活动、自驾、艺术、某种运动、阅读、烘培……等等，在不同的圈子中你会遇到更多不同习性与爱好的异性，可选人选将大大增加。
c. 要针对目标对象集中的区域
不同的行业不同的兴趣，性别比例差别也非常大，可以有目地的与异性多的人群靠拢，参加这些人群组织的一些活动，机会也将大大增加。比如女性可以参加IT行业组织的一些小聚会；男性可以参加烹饪学习班类型的学习等等。
d. 寻找“联系员”——关键人物法则
在众多朋友当中，总有几个“联系员”存在，他们乐于交际，会将不同的朋友联系起来互相认识。多与他们联系交流，多参加他们组织的各种活动，说不定哪一次你的姻缘就在那里。
e. 制定一定的标准
我们经常会听到有些人找对象总会说：“随缘就好”“合眼缘”“谈得来”……没有客观明了的标准，谁也不知道什么人合适你。就好像要叫朋友帮忙留意介绍工作，什么简历要求都没给，谁知道什么才是合适的，要介绍时也不知怎么介绍。
有明确的要求，朋友们才会开启雷达帮忙留意，筛选身边合适的出来，逮到合适的也会帮忙了解清楚相关条件是否符合。
f. 保持一定的接触频率
想要了解一个人，并不是容易的事情，而只是通过相亲看一眼，那基本上都没戏。
参加兴趣圈子后，需要经常抽时间参与进去，从反复接触当中，可以更深入的了解某个人是否合适。有可能外貌一般，但有着温柔细腻的心灵或幽默风趣，善良的品格呢？这些都不是一次接触可以感受到的。
g. 行动起来
合适的人选不是从天上掉下来的，那个完美的TA需要你在人群中寻找，然后将TA抓出来，只有行动起来，才能找到属于自己的幸福。
6）其他方法
a. 不要等着姻缘的降临，要放到观念的束缚，大胆出击
b. 不要为了结婚而结婚，要清楚你想要是什么样的婚姻生活
c. 可以放弃要求，而不要降低要求，不合适的千万不要勉强
d. 不要让曾经的经历或创作影响现在的你，要知道人与人是不一样的，要相信好人总比坏人多
e. 整理好自己的形象，会让你的回头率上升N个百分点
f. 提前阅读《幸福的婚姻》、《爱的五种语言》、《爱的五种能力》、《李中莹亲密关系全面技巧》、《持续的幸福》等书籍
书中提供了不少好的方法，有需要的朋友可以读读《30岁前的每一天》这本书本章节对应的内容。
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