Think of yourself as your own employees
When you are fully responsible for their own lives, no matter who will pay you to open, you are beginning to see themselves as their own employees, and you, as the president of the company's own as their own personal service. He sees himself as an entrepreneur, leading a company with only one employee, only if you own in a competitive market responsible for selling a product - your personal service. You will work in every element you take full responsibility, including production, quality control, training, development, communication, strategy, productivity, finance and so on. You can not find an excuse, on the contrary, you will make progress.
The energy of others
The second form of leverage is the use of "other people's energy," people are always looking for efficient ways to outsource low-value activity delegates, so they can have more time to do a few can bring the most revenue for them thing.
Philosopher Bertrand Russell said: "Some things can be done, the best proof is the fact that the part other people have done."
Do not waste your remaining years, to be idealistic things of others, unless you are able to reach those common goals fantasy up, because then it is delayed you do something else.
People insult you, as you are Peifu; people hurt you, you want him to accomplish as you. You humiliation, remember! Blessed are you, fellow, and do not resist.
Valued skills you are learning, no matter how low it is, and to feel at ease and enjoy in it;
There are two acres of people, a kung day is to fill his stomach, is a kung evening farm their own future.
Short people say is the protection our own weaknesses, have long boasted long is the bogey man
People often say that someone's weaknesses, people often boast of his virtues, can be said to be "deliberately not thick, know the amount is too narrow." As the saying goes: "do not fight face beatings, exposing people do not Jieduan" often talk about other people's weaknesses, boast their own strengths, not only is the performance of low emotional intelligence, are bound to provoke resentment yourself, bring disaster planted the seeds.
"People in my entire life can not do too many things, so every one should be doing fantastic. Your time is limited, so do not live for others. Do not be dogmatic constraints, do not live in other people's thinking. Do not let other people's opinions about their own inner voice and most importantly, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition, and only his heart and intuition to know your own true thoughts, everything else is secondary. "
I remember a friend of many years in public relations said a "wisdom", own less equipment, give the opportunity to the other package. If not rough rough handling and less self, pay more attention to other interests and needs, they will think you are really concerned about him, a sense of trust will be increasing all the relationship problems will be solved.
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"Covey's wisdom."
If the air in the room suddenly evacuated, how would you do? In addition to want to get air, you do not care about anything, because survival is your only motivation. But now with the air, it can not be an incentive for you. One of the greatest understanding of human motivation is this: do not need to meet the incentives, it only needs unmet need incentives.
Everyone's heart is very soft and sensitive, I do not think age and experience will bring much difference. Even in appearance, the most ruthless people in the heart also has a soft and delicate emotions.
Promise to myself a little commitment and keep its promise, then the promise of a slightly larger, and then a big point. Slowly, you will feel, keep their promises to bring a sense of accomplishment sense of accomplishment is greater than the completion event itself brings.
Behind the Taoist length is not the most important manifestation of integrity. Behind also continue to respect others, to win the trust of the presence of people.
The more a person cares about the attitude of others, can not afford the more the attitude of others, because he was too weak.
Others took your wallet, pretending to be you, this is kind of common identity theft. But the more serious identity theft is that you give others drowned in their own definition.
We use bright appearance, prominent identity, well-off family, or fashion dress, extraordinary eloquence, impressive education and other symbols to gloss over their own, to make us empty, barren heart. The result of this is to strengthen our reliance on these symbols, relying on external appearance and the values of life, the heart will become weak.
Your first question comes from your heart.
I went to visit several executives of a large company, ask them what their company's aim yes. They showed me a "fight for maximizing shareholder value," the slogan is similar. I asked: "This slogan can mobilize the enthusiasm of everyone do?"
They smiled and said:. "We are also close to another purpose on the wall, this is for the leadership"
I said: "I'll tell you about your corporate culture that you are splitting it if you have a union, will be cruelly bored labor disputes continue to check your large and small, to take carrot for employees to increase... and stick policy. to compete in interpersonal conflict, division, behind the scenes, spent on office politics this problem a lot of energy. "
They marvel at my his crafty plan: "how do you know so much, how the situation described in exactly the same with the facts?"
"I'm your industry and your company do not understand, I understand human nature."
Leadership is the highest skill, the reason is very simple, it can make all the other skills play a role.
If the parents can question a child who appears as an opportunity to contact the feelings, rather than troubles and burdens, the relationship between the two generations will be greatly improved, parents will be more willing, even eager to understand and help children. When children come for help with a problem, parents will not shouted: "! God, how can it" but to:. "Look, I have the opportunity to help children, and our relationship will further"
It is not difficult to understand the difference between leadership and management.
Imagine a group of workers clearing brushwood in the jungle. They are the producers, it is to solve practical problems.
Managers to develop policies behind them, the introduction of technology, work processes and determine the subsidy program.
Leaders then climb the highest tree, patrol the whole picture, then shouted: "! Is not a piece of jungle"
And busy producers and managers will be how to answer it?
"Do not shout it, we are doing it enthusiastically."
If we do not educate their children, society will give them lessons. Well, they and we have to endure the results.
If you can adhere to cultivate the habit of reading in the morning, with ten to fifteen minutes each day, read some of the eternal principle, you can basically make sure the day, whether at home, at work, or in all aspects of life, can do a better choice. You will have more ideas, more satisfying relationships, better perspective, more space to deal with what happened, but more to the point.
If I put kindness, kind, honest emotion into all accounts, and to fulfill my promise to you, then I set up a trust account. I trust you more and more, I can extract that trust when needed at any time. I can even make mistakes, because trust and emotional accounts can bridge my fault. Even if I expressed clearly enough, you will understand me, not because the sentence "given my sins." When the trust account surplus of time, communication will become very simple, convenient and efficient.
Ambitious people tend to indulge in their own world, even a child would be seen as property, often forcing the child's behavior in order to get fame and respect in the eyes of others. This possessory love is actually destroyed.
The eighth habit of highly effective people is to find their own aspirations, and encourage others to find their wishes.
Whether older or young, rich or poor, man or woman, were selected on two roads in life, it is a broad road leading to mediocrity but, a rugged trail was a great connection.
I used to go to the gym with a friend, he is a PhD in exercise physiology. His main aim is to enhance the strength. He told me that he would want me to take over the barbell at a particular time.
So, I'm watching, waiting, put down the barbell is lifted, lift down, I could see he had felt exhausted, but still persist.
I saw his facial muscles due to the hard and taut, raised blood vessel. Maybe I should take over the bar, I began to worry that he would lose control, they do not even know what they are doing. However, he safely put down the barbell, held up again, I could not believe it.
Finally he took me to the bar, I said: "? Why did you wait so long."
He replied: "Stephen, almost all the benefits of exercise are produced in the final stage I want to improve strength, it is necessary to wait until the muscle fiber fracture, nerve fibers feel pain for the job, because this time the natural mechanism will be over-compensated fiber. It will become tougher after 48 hours. "
I understand what he meant. Emotional "muscles" (such as Patience) is the same. When the patient's past record of temper beyond the emotional fiber will break, natural mechanism will be over-compensated fiber will be tougher next time.
Most people think discipline means to lose a certain degree of freedom, while the opposite is true, only people under the discipline have real freedom, no discipline is a slave mood, desire and passion.
Compared to the number of days the unit is to plan things, in weeks to plan life (the time required for the daily schedule can make appropriate adjustments) also allows you to have a broad perspective, because do not have to be limited to a short day . This method effects and relationships in the first place, on the second time. It will let you have more time to think about your goals and values, and with these goals and values to guide their daily decisions.
How the business world to achieve a win-win situation? If more profitable unilaterally, what happens then? When one party more than the other party to profit, it is to win - lose situation. For the winner, it seems certain period of success, but in the long run, they planted the seeds of anger and mistrust. We want to achieve a win-win, simply thinking: "How can the two sides have achieved success?" So you are looking for is to be superior to any unilateral action by the third option.
If the two views of the same, one of them will be superfluous. To communicate with like-minded people, there is no benefit to disagree, no gain.
Insecure people like to make everything subject to their will, they strongly want to clone others, to shape others according to their wishes. They do not realize the benefits with others is that there are different views. The same is not the same, nor is it consistent with a single.
We all know that usually save money to the bank account can be extracted at any time when needed. Emotional bank account is a parable set up in relationships of trust, a sense of security you are to others. If I put kindness, kind, honest emotion into all accounts, to fulfill my promise to you, then I set up a trust warehouse.
When you get a high degree of trust of others, communication becomes easy. Even made a mistake, it does not matter. Because people know you and trust you.
I have experienced a minor paradigm shift. It was a Sunday morning in the New York subway, passengers sat quietly, or reading a newspaper or contemplation or rest, in front of a serene scene.
Then came a man with several children, the child's as loud sound destroys the whole atmosphere. The man sitting next to me, let the kids run wild mischief, still indifferent. The whole car people are very unhappy, and finally I had enough to say to him: "? Sir, your child too busy, would you please possession of them."
The man raised his eyes to see me, as if to wake up like a whispered: "Yes ah, I think I was paying attention to them their mother had just died an hour ago, we just out of the hospital I know what to do, baby. They are probably the same. "
Can you imagine I was feeling it? I thought converted, see also the moment to change the angle of the matter, thoughts, feelings and behaviors have changed. My anger totally disappeared, no need to restrain their own attitudes and behavior, because his pain has made me empathy, sympathy and compassion arises spontaneously. "So your wife just died? I'm sorry! Would you like to talk to me? Or what can I do for you?" Suddenly, everything changed.
When we truly realize what is important for us, our lives what change? Please remember this picture in mind, let us all do the really important things every day.
We are about to enter the era of knowledge 50 times higher than the level of productivity of the industrial age, not 1 times, 2 times, 10 times, but 50 times.
While any job has monotonous, boring side, but we will have a variety of opportunities on other occasions to develop their own hobbies, learn more and improve all aspects of capacity, fully "enjoy life."
Stephen Covey's favorite motto
Each of us is repeated again and again by their own behavior being cast. Therefore Excellence is not an act, but a habit.
- Aristotle
You are a miracle come, unique. The past few years, fleeting, never had other children, like you.
- Pablo Casals
There are two things make me feel awe, that the sky above our heads and our hearts ethics.
- Kant
Every day I have to do so many things, please let me kneel for an hour.
- Martin Luther
Habits are like a cable, we wrap it every day as a new wave of cable, before long it will become unbreakable.
- Horace Mann
What is the chat bogey it? What topics will give your image discredit it? For a successful class and upper-middle class people, you talk about should be consistent with your position and your desire position. Like Pierre learning "social lubrication" of skills, it is necessary to avoid discussing those topics would chaotic unassuming. Pierre "is not in any place, to speak ill of anyone, do not spread any bad news, even the New York World Trade Center crashed aircraft to news spread by news reporters of it. I can only talk about those who can bring people joy and their topics of interest. Nothing is more susceptible to damage their image than talk about the faults of others! "never put yourself and other people's private lives as a seafood dinner, like to share with people, never talk with anyone accusing tone, never put "black sadness" message to any person, to be a sensitive person, do not touch the people do not want to talk about, not to expose others to scars special, not boring spread vulgar jokes. Circulating in society some jokes, a considerable part of the joke would be detrimental to the spread of this person's image. They may temporarily be able to win people laugh, but not enough to give the impression of a steady image and no taste.
No more than talk about the shortcomings of others more prone to damage their image of.
1. Do not talk about his life, career, future and planning too much, do not always put the topic on himself, the other party probably not interested in your personal situation. Moreover, they are talking about may seem boastful, you feel very vain and silly, if you are too modest or even self-deprecating, and can not be respected.
2. Do not talk against religion, the topic of national unity, this sensitive contact will convey your attitude to others and a specific way of thinking.
3. Do not help others spread bad news, it is not taboo to talk about things, such as death, crime, accidents and so on, some people will think it is unlucky.
4. Do not chatter about other people are not interested in long boring story, if not the audience the opportunity to find an excuse to leave, reluctantly continue to listen to you talk, he actually withstand the kind of torture, it goes on you'll scare all potential friends.
5. Do not open vulgar joke, although most people can accept and laugh, but you give people left a bad impression is irreparable.
6. Do not inquire about other people's privacy, such as salary, age, marital status and so on. Chinese people may be embarrassed to as "none of your business" attitude rebuff you like Westerners, but this problem has violated the personal space of others, it will make people feel uncomfortable, and you will look no accomplishment.
7. Do not talk about a common understanding of people's negative side, especially not behind for others to make negative comments, that will make you into a dangerous situation.
8. Do not tell their own sad story to others, if not self-resolve please find a psychiatrist, do not put their own "mental junk" unreservedly throw others, seek momentary gratification, has affected the sentiments of others. We should not show their negative side to others, leave a shadow on your good image. There are a lot of women think that this is a means of communication to enhance friendship, but the fact that, in the long run, a person exposed to others their own privacy and weaknesses will produce insecurity in their hearts, friendship not only there will not be further development, it will sow the seeds of rupture.
Can talk about:
1. Others row, there is talk topic.
2. Others are interested in, knowledge of the topic.
3. Volkswagen topics, such as weather, economic conditions, political situation in the world, sports and news.
4. Tasteful personal preferences, such as wine tasting, golf, classical music collections.
5. Any inspirational, positive news.
6. Others advantages.
7. Talk less and listen more, to leave each other a chance to speak.