There are too many American TV in New York, friends, sex and the city, how I met your mother, among friendship, fashion, love and lively people think that the United States, New York, on behalf of the United States best of everything in New York, as if Statue of Liberty holding the torch to summon people.
As a result, many people yearn for here.
可是，New York is not the US。
New York does not represent the United States. We see in American TV and movies in the United States, he has given us a lot of misunderstanding. America is not Las Vegas, not everywhere is the city that never sleeps.
Most American cities are not so many restaurants, not so busy night, not so much chinatown, not so much shopping mall, more not so well-developed transportation system.
Most of the United States, people always work early dinner with the family, rarely eat out, even get together with friends, also like to hold party at home.
Most of the United States, people like to live in a suburb, driving to work, enjoy the weekend with a quiet life, do cooking, in addition to weeding. Most of the United States, Europe as calm, a bit conservative, but freedom. Most of the United States, busy during the day, night silence.
Yes, most of the United States is boring, boring was a bit depressing. However, even in large cities, you will find that most of the time, you are a man.
If you like there are people who live with you every day, then the United States is not for you. Here, you have to learn to cook a person, a person to eat, entertain a person, not call friends, because everyone is busy with their own affairs, no one cares what you do. Even when you have what you want to celebrate the happy things, you may find that only you celebrate you, the feeling indescribable.
As if I finished the term, the students wanted to eat together, but suddenly remembered, here, had no concept of class. You can say that life is very lonely, you can also say that life is freedom.
A friend told me that when he went to night school, only to find that they have a day without speaking. Some friends of mine told me that drove out to play, open for a long time and did not see a person.
In American life, we have a very strong heart, can hit from time to time to deal with the loneliness and emptiness.
刚开始，我很不习惯。我觉得，美国的生活与我想得很不一样。好多朋友说，你在美国过得真滋润，和朋友一起聚餐、旅行。可是那只是很少的时候，博客是会骗人的，只会展示生活中最美好的部分。
而真实的生活，大部分的时间我都是闷在家里，一个人。如果你把国内的生活记录下来，你会发现，国内的生活要远远热闹有趣的多，不管是朋友还是娱乐都会多得多。在美国，生活的圈子很小，最熟悉的朋友永远是亚洲人。
现在的我，已经适应了一个人的生活，可以对着电脑，从早看到晚。
但是正是这样一个人的生活，可以让你学会如何令自己充实，并意识到，其实充实的生活，与他人无关。
充实，并不需要天天有人陪你吃饭或者聊天，自己一个人读以前没有机会看的书，也可以很充实。
充实， 并不需要天天出去party或者开会，自己一个人上网看各种各样的讯息，也可以很充实。
清华的生活，是一种别人带给你的充实。而美国的生活，是自己带给自己的充实。
生活，在这里，逐渐显出其最真实的状态。
在这里，你可以穿着奇装异服，别人顶多看你几眼，却不会指指点点。
在这里，你不需要考试拿第一名，你不需要为了别人羡慕的眼光儿逼迫自己去找一份多么高薪或者多么体面的工作。
在这里，你可以做你自己。
但是，在这里呆久了，你又会慢慢变得单纯，甚至是幼稚，看了太多国内偏激的报道，你会觉得国内那些政客都是傻子，都与民做对，会觉得国内的商人都是腐败的，没有道德的，你的观点会变得很generalized。而这样，就意味着，你很难再回去了。
无数的人在网上谩骂，无数的人说网络为我们带来了民主。我们学习美国人，肆无忌惮的抒发着自己的观点。可是，没有经历过的事，没有见过的人，没有处在那个复杂的环境，不要妄下结论。网上所看到的，不一定都是真实的。
有人跟我说，想去美国，是因为觉得国内生存太累了，国内的人仇富欺贫，又太喜欢比，弄得左右为难。我承认，国内的环境是很复杂。可 是，正是在这样一种复杂的环境脱颖而出，才显得难能可贵。
Domestic success, the need for more Tolerance and assess the situation and the need for more water runs deep. So, we have these children after 80, 90, without knowing how much people eat bitter person can become Master of the case, he accused those who did not qualify in high positions.
In China, people would rather believe that the success of primitive accumulation is not clean, and always feel arrogant, if they do, will do better than him. Tam variety of political responsibility to, even if a mine and he did not direct responsibility; businessman who was also felt donate money to charity too, we think you are so rich to donate more money should be.
This reminds me of Long Waves had seen. Which the hero had done director of contempt, but when he has gone through numerous struggles and humiliation of director seats to climb, only to suddenly find that everything is a last resort. And all of this is based on good position themselves want to do a good thing, the best will always be people say change the taste.
If you ask me, prefer what kind of life. I can only say that if I have children in the future, I will tell him, life has always been hard-won. We came to this world, this is not for enjoyment. When ring true ingenuity of the Americans, the complex things simple; in good times, the use of Chinese people's wisdom and be prepared, the simple things complicated.
I will tell him, when the poor, the use of the mentality of Americans, do not envy the rich; and affluent time, the use of Chinese people's mentality, keeping a low profile, do not lead to hate others, but also to face up to other people's hate.
I will tell him to learn to be alone, Ah Q spirit of the Americans with their own entertainment, do not care what they say; we must learn to live in groups, learn to respect, understanding and timely silence. Do not complain, not to do that online abuse of people.
Standing at Time Square, New York Surely the neon lights as the day, uproar, the heart is quiet.
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