He Caitou - to love each other, but also to hurt each other

Hecaitou - Love each other, and hurt each

other Thought, but came to the most superficial conclusions, even contrary to the facts. The reason is simply that such a conclusion makes one feel reassured, but does not dare to really touch the truth that contradicts common sense and intuition.

For example, why is the rhetoric on the Internet so intense compared to real life? Where did those suave Chinese go?

Many years ago, I wanted to understand this truth: when the Internet gives everyone an equal opportunity to speak, then the online world is destined to be noisy, and people are destined to attack each other with words.

In the real world, people are polite only because they are bound by their social identities and social hierarchies. For example, Taiwanese writer Li Ao cherished the memory of the old Beijing shop assistants. To what extent did their earnestness and courtesy come from nature, and to what extent should it be attributed to their ranking at the lowest level in the social order of scholars, farmers, businessmen, and businessmen at that time? After 1949, when there was an equal comradeship between people, the attitude of the waiters towards customers must be obvious to all.

For another example, our imagination of "gentle and elegant" scholar-officials comes more from the emotional projection of their works and achievements, and has nothing to do with their real conduct. It goes without saying that Lu Xun was gloomy and irritable. In Xu Fuguan's famous joke, the Neo-Confucian master Xiong Shili lived in Xu Dao's neighbor's house. If the servant brought a bowl of chicken soup that was not full, the master would scold the servant for stealing it; if it was full, the master And I have to scold my servant for drinking it secretly and then add water... How many gentle gentlemen can be found, and how many eccentric celebrity masters can be found.

However, through their articles and letters, and through media publications, what we see is indeed a group of modest gentlemen coming and going, like a group of gods walking in the garden in the sky---Cut! The problem lies here, because it is a restricted stage, and it has to undergo strict screening before going on stage. This is like the Internet from 1990 to 2000. In that era, there were many gentlemen on the Internet, and there was no lack of in-depth and serious discussions. The reason was that in that era, you could afford to buy a computer and pay more than 1,000 yuan per month. Internet fees, and there are millions of Chinese people who understand English. It is also a restricted stage, knowledge and money are the thresholds for performing on stage, and the people on the stage identify with each other and they belong to the same social class, so it is not surprising that they are polite. From another perspective, there was a deep digital divide between the netizens and the public at that time.

When there are no restrictions on the stage, this atmosphere of equality, friendliness, and mutual love will disappear. When you think about it, it's like the difference between an M16 and an AK47. If there were only expensive, fragile, and regularly serviced M16 rifles in the world, armed groups around the world would be professional organizations, and only in limited numbers. However, after the AK47 rifle, which is cheap, stable and reliable, with replaceable parts and easy to imitate, soon gunshots sounded all over the world, a large number of amateurs can also be ranked in the quasi-armed force, and it is even difficult to distinguish between civilians and civilians. Militants. Smartphones are the AK47 of the online world in this era. One per person means that the digital divide has been leveled, so there is a lot of noise and constant disputes.

Are we in love with each other, or are we destined to hurt each other? What is it that our hearts really long for? When we each have an AK47 in our hands, this question will be answered.

When you can open Weibo with a few clicks of your finger, who can stop the surging desire to comment? Who can stop the conflicts and criticisms that arise from it? So, when everyone had internet access, we were in the jungle, and bullets were coming from all directions. When you need people to listen, you have to clear the field beside you with heavy weapons and shoot out a clearing. This is a common scene in the jungle world, and there is a calm dialogue after a power showdown.

Some people don't like this mess. Well, it's better to also be frank about the underlying nature of this dislike at the same time: dislike equality, and dislike freedom of speech.

The king was polite and would not spit back at the peasant who spurned him, because his guards would quickly cut off the peasant's tongue. The powerful are the most humble, and they are also polite to the most ordinary passerby, because he does not need to use arrogance to prove his authority, but humility can increase his virtue. When it is clearly known that the status of each other is not equal, the party in the high position is most likely to demonstrate politeness. This politeness itself reminds the other party of the asymmetry between each other, and there is no element of respect in it. Friends hurt each other and even use swear words at will. The reason for both abandoning politeness is that they are equal to each other, but speaking honorifics to each other makes people feel strong.

The true meaning of freedom of speech is that in order to have the freedom to speak, one must endure the scolding of others as the price of freedom. Because starting from cursing and cursing, the end result is that no one can open their mouths to speak.

So, you will see very harsh comments here, and you will also see my more harsh replies. Readers think that insulting me is a form of freedom of speech, and I completely agree, then my anti-splash is also practicing freedom of speech. If the reader wants to draw a gun and shoot, then I also draw a gun and fight back, which reflects the equal relationship between me and the reader. Otherwise, I can block it directly, and it is enough to just post a message that supports me. This is to make full use of the unequal relationship between the author and the reader.

Love each other, kiss and touch each other is a way to deepen understanding and enhance feelings; in the same way, hurting each other and attacking each other is also a way to deepen understanding and enhance understanding. And I'd say the latter is probably more effective when it comes to the majority of the population. Thinking that it is only right to love each other and hurting each other is a mistake, then I can only say: Welcome to the earth, please try to get used to the bird like human beings, please try to understand that SM is also a kind of violent love.

Now, try to understand this year's buzzword: let's hurt each other!