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This girl is a very good friend of mine. She is also a classmate in middle school. She graduated from her undergraduate university last year. After graduation, she chose to go to a training institution to train in a relatively popular front-end development because she could not find a suitable job. , then went to Shanghai to look for a job, but for some reasons, after resigning from the previous company (the reasons will be mentioned in the article), she has been unemployed at home recently. During the chat, she told me that she would continue to study the front end, look at the interview questions and votes. Resume, I feel very motivated, but yesterday she suddenly told me that she was going to give up, I was a little confused at the time, I didn't know what to say, and I didn't ask the reason, my mind went blank.
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In fact, from the time she graduated to the present, I have been encouraging her all the time. Whether it was before the training or when she was training in a training institution, she couldn't find a good job at first, and I kept telling her, don't do this kind of thing Hurry up, take it slow, don't think too much about the salary at the beginning, after all, she has no experience, so she should calm down and learn, and then find a company to develop it, and slowly learn the technology , but there is a certain period of time. I'm a little disappointed, I don't know what to say. Maybe she submitted too many resumes during that time, but she never found a job and was confused and in a bad mood, so she stopped talking about chicken soup. It is to talk about life or some trivial things, not to talk about work, not to talk about study, not to talk about what technical books you have read.
After that, I found a job. Since then, I have less contact with each other, but one day I suddenly left. I heard her say that the people in the company are not very easy to get along with, and the working atmosphere is not very good. , I would also ask questions that could not be solved when I was working, but I didn’t have a master to guide me. I went to Baidu and was told by my colleagues that all problems were Baidu. Later, I chose to leave.
I think the current working environment may be like this. Due to blogging, some friends with one-year experience or newcomers have joined me one after another during this period, and listened to their experiences, such as the difficult interview process and salary. Not high, working overtime, being notified to resign after half a month of work .... These things give me the feeling that the current IT market seems to be very unfriendly to newcomers, the threshold is high and the process is relatively tormented. As for the reasons, it cannot be simple. It is simply due to the imbalance of supply and demand or the proliferation of training institutions. The industry has always been like this. Only capable people can stand their ground . In fact, thinking about it, I can't completely attribute the reasons to the above two reasons, because I was in a similar situation three years ago. Not to mention this.
Let’s go too far, let’s go back to my friend. Because she is a newcomer in the workplace, and she doesn’t have enough work experience, she is not very good at dealing with interpersonal relationships, so she cannot continue to work in the original company. I also told her, and Not every company is like this, it's not human, and there are pitfalls everywhere. The friends I know in this industry are all very cute and simple. Maybe it's better to change to another company , so I encourage her to read the materials and practice. I will submit my resume again, because I think she still has the ability. She just lacks an opportunity and needs a platform to allow her to grow and progress. Compared with the current one who suddenly said to give up, find a front-end job and calm down. Doing it down for a while should be a better choice.
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In fact, when I first heard the news, I had a lot to say, and I typed a lot of text, just to tell her that she has been in touch with front-end development for a year, if she just gave up It's a pity, and I also want to persuade her to try to persevere, because perseverance is also a kind of ability, and I have given a lot of examples, but after thinking about it, I deleted them. Why persist, how to persist, what will happen if you persist, what are some examples of persistence, the "persistence theory" throughout the article is too preachy.
I also know that it is actually quite annoying to explain a lot of truths in the tone of a past person, because I don’t think from her perspective and state of mind, and I try to instruct her what to do in a didactic language. It can't play a positive role, but it will backfire and make her feel resistant and negative. I don't know how to persuade her. There is too much chicken soup, but the reality is not satisfactory. As a friend, I also understand that if You may find it annoying if you say too many illusory words and talk about "persistence" for too long, hahaha.
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Although I have only mentioned the experience of leaving the last company, I can see from the recent conversation that it seems to have a great impact on her mood. In a strange city, in a place that has not yet made her feel kindness and kindness In a happy city, she was a little lost. This failure and unpleasant experience made her a little afraid to go out and meet people, or even to interview, maybe because she was afraid of being hit again. I am not in Shanghai, and I am not the front end, although I am very I want to help her, but I have no real action and ability, so I can only write such an article silently and complain, what should I do?
I'm going to climb up step by step
, waiting for the sun to watch quietly at its face, a
small sky with big dreams
, wrapped in a heavy shell, and looking up gently
Look how this "snail" looks like us fighting for our dreams.