Some tips and essence of chatting

Try to find someone with a higher level and realm than you to chat with.
That way you can talk about a lot of deep things.
If you can win his appreciation,
maybe he will provide you with his resources and connections.
When communicating, find intersections.
Then talk about some common topics.
Then we can chat naturally.
After chatting, we need to talk about something in-depth from time to time.
This requires background,
need to read more, learn more, summarize more, have more insights, and be full of poetry and literature.
Others will look up to you, respect you, and even respect you.
When you talk, you should also grasp the advantages of others and praise them at the right time to make others feel that you respect them too.
This is a virtuous circle.
Then the big coffee is willing to play with you.