As the saying goes, gold is three and silver is four. Whether it is being urged by relatives to get married during the Spring Festival just past, or if you want to change jobs in the near future, I believe that everyone is now more eager to find a job and find a girlfriend. How to find a good job and a good girlfriend? In fact, the ultimate meaning of both of them is two words: demand ! Aside from Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, I divide them into two from low to high levels:
1. Hardware requirements such as appearance features
The emotional needs
3. Growth needs
The need for security
1. Hardware requirements such as appearance features
Your appearance, your education, and other hardware values are the first impressions that determine whether you will have an intersection. It is worth mentioning the theory that A man finds B woman: because boys have a desire to control, they generally do not go to girls who are stronger than him, and girls will tend to find boys who are better than themselves.
Therefore, at which level you are, if you focus on finding girls who are one level lower than you, the chance of success will be higher.
Likewise with job hunting, if you are more valuable than another candidate, it is obvious that the company will choose you. So don't think about counterattacking the goddess all day, counterattacking to go to a company that has more money and less work, and this kind of thing is impossible to succeed! First of all, you should strive to improve your own value and read more.
The emotional needs
You make the other person happy and they want to be with you. When you are fortunate enough to pass the first stage, the girl will give you the contact information, and the company will send you an offer.
But at this time they don't belong to you. Some people may cheat in the first stage and pass the test, but there is no airtight wall in the world, and it will definitely reveal its tricks over time. At this time, you will not be able to meet the emotional needs of the other party.
In addition, many people may stay at the stage of emotional needs all the time, and some even have a high value of themselves, but they have no time or will not make girls happy, and if they cannot meet the emotional needs of girls, problems will arise.
Everyone knows about the Wang Baoqiang and Ma Rong incident. The baby is very busy while filming and may not be home for a long time, so another man, Song Zhelai, met Ma Rong's emotional needs, causing her to cheat! The same is true of the company. Sometimes you offend the leader because of a certain sentence, and you will be fired in a different way. But as long as you are in the core position, the leader has to consider three points, so improving your own value is the key .
3. Growth needs
Empower leadership to meet the growth needs of others. When you've made people happy and satisfied their emotional needs, congratulations, you've entered stage three!
Working in the company is the same as getting along with a girl. After a long time of laughing and laughing, you will definitely get tired. You must help her grow or grow with her, so that it can last for a long time.
In ancient society, boys would hunt in groups. They have absolute friendship because men need to be with the team to be stronger ~ and girls only need to find a strong man.
People with leadership skills will be the object of girls' admiration. He has excellent genes, and girls will be more inclined to choose them. People with leadership skills are also less likely to be eliminated. This is the mechanism of Darwin's theory of evolution, natural selection.
Women often have double standards for leaders they admire and honest takers: they will always have an appetite for honest people, they will exchange low value for high value, they will obtain more survival resources, and they will obtain more benefits. will fall in love.
Leaders that girls adore will meet their growth needs. Leaders are very attractive, and they will quickly attract women and even be chased by girls.
Having said all that, let's summarize. When you are looking for a girlfriend, it is best to find out in advance whether her ex-boyfriend is an honest person or a leader, because the leader may not have time to spend with girls or there are many girls around, and honest people feel more at ease for her.
For girls whose ex-boyfriends are honest, they may find it boring after a long time and want to find an attractive boy. So, this time you just need to play the opposite role.
When you're looking for a job, figure out why the last person in this position left, and demonstrate better value, so that others will need you more. In the final analysis, it is to strive to improve one's own value and read more books.
The need for security
Demonstrate responsibility and professionalism. Why do girls have spare tires? Why does the company have reserve talents? These are all based on the needs of security. Companies and girls will protect their own interests, they will screen you, test you, and finally give you their whole life. Let yourself work hard to be a reliable person, it is a lifetime to prove it!