We always fall into such a vicious circle: the last student in the class in the academic performance test became the boss, and every year, every place, every school, and every class, there are always a few students who are worse than some students. The tyrants are doing well. Some people say that they are fighting fathers, but how can there be so many fathers who can fight?
A must-see for mothers: The gap between children is widened by these 4 things.
1. Socially strong kids are loved by everyone
Social competence is a skill that children cannot learn from books, but it is an important skill above the immediate knowledge skills. Children with strong social skills tend to be more likely to be the core of a group and tend to have more opportunities to be leaders of a unit than children with poor social skills. What parents have to do is to help their children create more social opportunities and take their children out to meet people and gain insights.
2. Optimistic kids are closer to success
Those who achieve great things often have an optimistic attitude that the world cannot see through. They are not afraid of setbacks, they are not afraid of ridicule, and they do not care about other people's eyes. There is a commonly known "silly". Why are such people closer to success? Because of his strong psychological endurance and resistance to setbacks, even if he fails, he will not fall down. As long as you let the child continue to try, he will be closer to success than ordinary people. The optimistic child is more energetic than the pessimistic child, and the friends around him are more angry.
3. Children with strong self-control do not go astray
Maybe parents will feel that self-control is the child's own business. As a parent, you can only do your best. You can manage as far as you can, and if you can't reach enough, you can rely on the school teacher. But as everyone knows, "free children are the most self-conscious", you give the child enough space, teach him the truth of the child, let him bear the consequences of the child's wrongdoing, let him bear the consequences of his own, do not restrain him so much, the child is overly concerned The more you will be rebellious, so let go slowly and let your child manage their own life from an early age.
4. Confident kids have more opportunities
I heard a treasured mother say that her son is fine in everything, but when he asks him to do things, he always says: I am shy, I am shy. In fact, the occurrence of such problems is inseparable from the excessive care and care of parents for their children. Many parents feel that the children are still young and it does not matter when they are older, but they all know that it is easy to develop bad habits and good habits. But it needs to be accumulated over time and picked up from childhood. Therefore, children should be encouraged and given more opportunities to express themselves, and do not deprive children of the opportunity to find self-confidence.