When I feel at a loss, I want to write. Today I will talk about my feelings after reading the book "The Crowd".
When I first read this book, I was a little crazy when I saw the name, but after reading it carefully, it was about the knowledge of social psychology. I didn’t like psychology books very much before. I still remember the idea that I didn’t want to complicate myself too soon, because I wanted to stay so innocent and simple, if one day I really don’t look like myself. , I'll start digging into books on this, because I always put my original dream first. Sure enough, this day has come. The innocent, pure and kind boy has changed. It is not easy to keep the same mood for 20 years. The past 20 years have been really beautiful.
In this chaotic world, we are really too changeable. The turbulence of the crowd, the indifference around them, the proliferation of utilitarianism, and the poisoning of the spiritual level. Numbness, exaggeration, interests, assimilation, loneliness, emptiness, blindness, hypocrisy, scheming... Occasionally I see a carefree teenager playing roller skating. It turns out that it is not the family standing next to him, but the extracurricular roller skating tutoring. class coach. People began to become extremely lonely, extremely self-indulgent, extremely addicted to their own imaginary spiritual world, and narcissistic. The original intention of strengthening the construction of spiritual civilization that we advocate is not like this, but to improve the quality of our life from the material to the spiritual level. Looking back at the world around you, how many people are living in the virtual world constructed by the network, in the same dormitory, living in four different worlds.
Lack of communication is the most serious problem in today's society. All seem so independent, so individual, so assertive, and each individual is a different world. We are all too arrogant, too hypocritical, too out of touch with reality. We can ignore everyone's eyes, ignore all the disturbances around us, and even entertain ourselves, giving others the feeling that one can live a free and unrestrained life. In fact, deep down, who doesn't want someone to understand their The world, who doesn't want someone who can understand all your thoughts. Humans are a kind of creatures that live in groups. When they are separated from this group, they become special individuals. We are now in this embarrassing middle ground. We pursue personality independence but long for someone to understand us. We long to enter the group but do not want to follow the crowd. .
The assimilation effect of the group is indeed terrifying. Some of the things that I originally wanted to do are forced by the group consciousness, and I dare not do it. Some things that I did not want to do, but because of the unity of the group, I have to do it. It's hard to be really independent in a group, unless you're the leader, unless you're an alien. Therefore, how to maintain the independence of individuals in the group has become our most concerned issue now.
Le Pen wrote in the book that a person's character remains the same throughout his life, which can only be seen in fiction. When you are in a group, you have to change yourself unconsciously, and you may not feel that some aspects of you have become different from before. In a group, an individual can be brought into a state of complete loss of consciousness of personality; while in an isolated individual, the individual has the ability to dictate his own reactive behavior, the group lacks this ability. It seems impossible that we want to integrate into the group and maintain absolute personality independence. So people have come up with a very reasonable way to deal with it, constantly enriching their spiritual world, and at the same time integrating into the group, playing together when they play, even if they don’t know who they are, and no one needs to know who. The important thing is to be able to There are companions who entertain with him, and after the show, he is immersed in his own spiritual world. How perfect this looks, not only maintaining his own personality, but also enjoying the fun of being in the group, what an enviable life.
However, another problem arises again, each of us attaches too much importance to the spiritual level, so that we are separated from the real world and eventually even this kind of strangers to play with will not exist, so people have a good The solution, entertaining yourself, completely immersed in your own world, and finally moving towards complete individual independence again. This contradictory cycle keeps splitting our hearts, so we see a teenage boy with a sad face and a melancholy look into the distance; then we see a primary school student who is always doing things he doesn’t like doing, Remedial classes that we are not interested in; so we see a person who has been married several times in his life, and when he finally grows old, he still frowns; then we see that behind the bright smiling face is actually a very lonely and indifferent heart.
Music, movies, web dramas, anime, text... all these have become the last barrier in our hearts. Immerse yourself in the music and enjoy the surprise of the moments that resonate with it; feel the romance and beauty, justice and fearlessness that almost do not exist in reality in the exaggerated movie and web drama; intoxicated in the text, fictional small The world cannot be forgotten for a long time; let your imagination run wild in anime and refresh your three views... These things have been called the wealth of human beings since ancient times, and have had a profound impact on human society, benefiting countless people. shallow. But that was in the past, and now, that seems to have changed. The more we are addicted to music, the more independent we are; the more intoxicated we are with words, the more arrogant we are; the more we focus on movies and web dramas, the more we are out of reality...Everything has a degree, these spirits Food is no exception, too much intake will also lead to excess nutrition.
I was addicted to movies for a time, I had to watch it every day, and then I got tired of it; then I was addicted to anime, one a week, but I got tired of it; and finally I was addicted to music, but fortunately I didn’t get tired of it, and now I’m in a state of listening to about ten movies a day. More than an hour of music, even when it arrives, I listen to it all the time except when I fall asleep. I also admire this very strange feature of myself. Sometimes I can't help but want to laugh hahaha . Probably because I have been relatively independent since I was a child, I have really changed, and I have become not like the me before. I used to hate writing essays the most. Who would have thought that today I would be idle here and write by myself.
Going back to the previous question, how do we keep our personalities independent in today's social situation?
My personal understanding is to be an independent leader. Each individual has a different leadership potential, and the communication between leaders is equal, respectful, relaxed but not solemn. Leaders exchange experiences, ideas, and unique perspectives on things together, and at the same time have their own independent careers. In the process of building one's own business, it is equivalent to retaining one's own independent personality, because one's own business can only be created by oneself. In communication, seeking common ground while reserving differences, unique ideas and personalities can be appreciated, and the same characteristics give people a similar feeling. The joy of seeing hate late is equivalent to blending in with the group. Such harmony and unity is what our society should be in.
Go back to reality and be an independent, daring leader. Forget it, don't write it, I'll update it later. . . . . .