As the saying goes, "Don't talk when you are poor, don't persuade others if you are humble." The latter two sentences are more classic, but few people know!
Communicating with people, how to speak is a knowledge and an art of being in the world. When we deal with people, we often move each other because of a single sentence, and we also lose a friendship because of improper words. In "Journey to the West", it is said that "the mouth is open and the spirit is clear, and the tongue moves right and wrong." There is also an old saying that "right and wrong are only for talking more, and troubles are caused by strong prominence."
There is such a saying in our folk culture, "Don't talk if you are poor, don't persuade others if you are humble." Just 10 words contain a profound truth. The colloquialism is a philosophy of life created and understood by the common people. Although the superficial meaning may seem crude, careful reading can give us a lot of insights and avoid many traps on the road of life.
So what does it mean to "don't talk when you are poor, don't persuade others if you are poor", and how do we understand it? In fact, the second half of the saying is equally wonderful, telling the reality of human nature.
1. Don't talk when people are poor
Let's first look at "Don't talk when people are poor". This sentence means that people should not talk casually when they are in trouble or poverty. The sleepy hexagram of the Book of Changes once said, "There is something to say or not." When a person is in adversity and cannot solve his own food and clothing, then no one will believe what this person says, even if it is a great truth or a university question.
When people are poor, in fact, it is more to listen and feel more, instead of whistling and talking. "Zengguangxianwen" says that "the poor live in the downtown area and no one asks, and the rich have distant relatives in the mountains." Not only do the poor have no one to care about, even the right to speak will be invisible "deprived."
Whether it is attending a gathering of friends or negotiating and cooperating with others, those who talk loudly and jokingly are often either rich or noble. Even if there are many shortcomings in what they say, they will still be forgiven by others. So when a person is impoverished, try to manage your own mouth as much as possible. This will also leave a good impression on others. If you talk about it, it is likely to arouse resentment from others.
Second, it's hard to persuade others
There is a saying that "people are light-hearted". Before Su Qin became famous during the Spring and Autumn and Warring States period, he was not only poor but also low in social status. The wife in the family was reluctant to look at him directly, and of course he would not give him a living allowance. Su Qin worked hard in such a predicament, and finally worshipped the Six Nations, and when he returned home, his wife and parents came out to meet him from afar.
If a person has no social status and a humble status, then don't persuade others, because they may not believe what you say. Just like many parents, they always persuade their children to become a dragon or a phoenix, but if they are neither a dragon nor a phoenix, their children will naturally not listen.
To do anything, you must first have the ability, and after you have made achievements, you will have confidence. Only what you say can be recognized by others. If you are unremarkable, what you say will be considered bragging and it is difficult to impress others.
If you are poor, don't talk, the saying that you are humble and not persuade people actually has the second half, which is even more exciting and intriguing, that is, "Let's take a little time, don't find relatives in hardships", which tells the reality of human nature.
Three, take a short break to load
The meaning of this sentence is that if you are weak, don't do things beyond our tolerance. There is an idiom saying "Mantis blocks the car." In fact, many people lack their own abilities, but they always want to occupy a high position. As a result, they do things in a mess and put themselves in danger.
Self-effort will make others laugh, and it will also make yourself very embarrassed. In the era of competition, everyone should accumulate energy and be a dragon, and finally it is possible to meet the nobles in life and achieve a career .
4. Don't find relatives in hard times
It's more realistic to find relatives when you are in trouble, reflecting the warmth and coldness of the world. Relatives walk around for the purpose of connecting and helping each other, but it's okay to help each other, but often seeking help from relatives will make the other person feel that "you are a poor relative" and become more and more alienated.
When encountering difficulties, you must find ways to solve them by yourself. Try not to ask for help. For example, when Fan Jin encountered difficulties in the past, his wife sought help from relatives. As a result, few people were willing to lend a helping hand. Come to congratulate, take the initiative to greet the cold, Fan Jin suddenly turned from a poor scholar who everyone disliked to everyone's sweet pastry. The truth in this reflects the reality of human nature.
The proverb “Don’t talk when you are poor, don’t persuade others if you are humble” and the latter part of it, “Retire a little, don’t seek relatives in adversity”, are the personal experience of the ancients. Although it seems unfavorable, it is our daily life. After you fully understand the knowledge that you must know in life, you will find that you have to rely on yourself for everything. If you grow up ambition, you will naturally do everything smoothly.