This time last year, I just promotion, began to take over the work of the project and team management. But then busy trivial work, brainstorming into the night but did not result, much progress still no project to work overtime, which gave me brought trouble. Joy and confidence when the promotion was replaced by anxiety.
A person's status and performance also can not fool people, because too much pressure had never been seen not just in a bad mood, but also eat well sleep well, I often lead to headaches, mental sluggish, physically and mentally fatigued.
That morning, I was called into the boss's office. After I report to him, he asked me if I took office this situation and feelings since the post. I would like the heart of grievances to spit fast, but in order to express themselves, I put a calm squeezed out two words: "okay." To hide their inner weakness.
Boss nodded, then went on: "You just for the job, encounter some tricky thing is normal if there are any difficulties, can be raised with the company." It turned out that the boss is aware of. So I talk to him from those levels as well as thin thick-do items encountered, I'd love to do that but I am powerless to do.
Boss listen to me ramble Then, a pause, he said:. "The problem is not afraid, not afraid of busy also, as long as the heart is not busy on the line, things will not be chaos." Then he and I share his experiences, how did he manage the team, how came step by step, and now of how he is doing.
Interestingly, I noticed that the boss when they speak, an action inadvertently. He used a rag to wipe the table for a moment, then put it aside folded square of tofu. I know, the original boss after graduating from college two years when conscripts, order and attention to detail to develop a good habit in the army, and has been carried on. On his desk, including sorting and display documents, it has been neat. On the side of the sofa, folding his jacket he wears.
Now he is the real busy man. He not only need to think about and to control the company's strategic decision-making level of things, but also matters docking of various departments, met with business partners, to discuss a number of cooperation issues, travel is inevitable, he also went to study amateur Zhongshan University MBA or two other corporate consultant. He would come home to help with household chores, caring for children. But his whole aura is in high spirits, humor, wise and prudent, did not see the anxiety and impulsive, but also to do things methodically.
Boss said: " Sometimes you feel busy, tired, not entirely due to the thing itself might be your anxiety, your emotions, your inner space filled.. "
Later, I am still very busy, also encountered more problems, but my heart slowly calmed down, the work of the project has also been progress. Because I put down the obsession, abandon unnecessary, unwanted thoughts. I felt the peace of mind a practical constant force.
Some time ago traveling by car went to Yunnan, the last leg to reach the Shangri-La. In Xiaozhongdian on the plateau, I met a girl a passion to open the inn, she called little bit. Of course, she is not a person here, she was married here, also gave birth to a lovely baby. That night we stayed the night at the opening of her inn.
That was in the summer, but at night the temperature on the plateau is very low, like winter in Guangdong, we also put on warm clothes. That night, we courtyards hungry small side table, eating little to do scented dishes, tomatoes, fried eggs, fried garlic leaves Tibetan pig, drinking warm stomach barley wine, dense and tired of .
Dinner break, we chatted up. They are originally from Zhejiang to Shangri-La also has more than a year. Appearing on the two little cheeks Gaoyuanhong, scattered nature, yet simple and gentle. She was holding a large eight-month son sat, full of warmth, full of light motherhood.
I am very envious little bit: "nice to be resident in Shangri-La, a family of three Ye Hao warm."
Little son is giving powdered milk, she smiled and said:. "It is really like but in fact I had discomfort, I too therefore depression for some time."
Recalled his little baby just before the finish, often sleep well at night, the children awoke crying several times a night, that night sleepless nights suffering and the pain she felt. After a month, even during the day the children back to the city purchasing food, tourists, finishing rooms, change and wash linens. In addition to Mr. around, no one loved ones next to, not to mention husband also have a business in itself, can not always accompany the side. At that time did not own little circle, and the local Tibetans nor the spirit of sharing. No heavy share of family labor so that she fell into irritability and depression.
后来，点点才慢慢走出了心中的阴霾。她说：“在我情绪异常低迷的时候，我告诉自己，不能再这样下去了，这不是我想要的，也不是我的初衷。那会儿我就在想，哪一种生活不是过呢？换成另一种生活就好过了吗？其实我已经比别人幸运多了，香格里拉我想来，也来了。我向往这里的天空，也按理想中的样子开了一家客栈，还在这里与相爱的人结婚生子了，我们的事业也在慢慢起步。我为什么要不快乐呢？此心安处是吾乡。再说，为了我的孩子，我更要做一个快乐的妈妈。”
当点点开始认识到自己时，她也渐渐地从情绪的牢笼中解脱了出来。她不再满心抱怨，抑郁不快，而是接纳眼前的一切，把这一切都当作修行。她在各种劳动中静静地体味身心合一的感觉，一种如信仰的力量在体内流淌。有时候会背上儿子，和当地的藏民一起去草原上放牛牧羊，看太阳朝升夕落，看时光缓慢流动。
点点以前就喜欢摄影，如今重新拾起，拍儿子的成长印记，拍香格里拉湛蓝清澈的美，用光影留住生活点点滴滴的美好。也因为她拍得好，当地还有人约她拍片，有一些额外的酬劳，日子也有了明亮的暖色调。
“当初的繁忙劳累差点把我压垮，做什么事都觉得没劲，现在想来，真正压得我喘不过气来的是自己的心。因为我现在比当时更忙，跟当地的藏民合作一些小买卖，跟物流打交道，在附近租了些土地种了点庄稼，客人也比以前多，虽然忙碌，但却觉得异常充实，我所做的事情，让我觉得充满意义和尊严。
"我想，当你改变了心的轨迹，你的生命的确会迸发出巨大的热情和力量来。如今，身忙，心不忙。”她说话的言语很轻，很平静，有一种质朴真挚的美。
我很欣赏点点的状态。忙是人生的常态，无论你是身在人车喧嚣的城市还是隐居世外桃源，也避免不了“忙”这个人生课题。如何在忙碌的世界中活出生命闪亮的光彩，这极其考验一个人的心性和智慧。一味地抱怨和焦虑，只会消耗你生命的能量，让你失去更多。唯有内心平静有力量的人，才能在这个忙碌的世界中，活得优雅、从容，活出生命的丰富和质感来。
曾看过杨澜采访星云大师的一段视频，也聊起过“忙”这个话题。星云大师说：“忙也是一种修行。”
杨澜针对现代人忙碌的状态，进一步问道：“但是像这个舟马劳顿，包括现在坐飞机，坐车，等等，其实对人的身体要求还是蛮高的，同时，这么忙会不会让人的心情难以平静呢？”
星云大师说：“人忙心不忙。我们的心要安详。心如果不忙的话，光是体力上的消耗，它休息一下就又恢复了。你像坐飞机、坐火车。正是休息的好时间，正是可以计划、思想、用心的时候，养身，也要养心。心养好了，无事不办。”
世间纷扰，风云变幻，但我们不能被它裹挟着走。心底清净方为道。平心静气是我们与世界相处的一种方式。唯有如此，我们才能在繁忙的世间悠游自适，从容淡定地去面对；才能在自我的夹缝中，看到最初的明朗，找到人生的宽度，雕刻出真正的生命印记来。
