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No. 2 last month, my daughter was born.
The whole family is with great joy to greet the arrival of a new life, a father I was excited to hear the first cry baby when the mood is still fresh. At that time my father did not know what the title means, just know that my daughter will come a happy wife and two of the world to break, thus forming a small family of three, it will be a new experience, that I never experienced before experience.
The first thing after the excitement and joy is to coax the child, the child has been crying non-stop in the ward. Before and pregnant wife at the school learned, the child should be insecure, hold up really stopped crying. Wife caesarean section, anesthetic not been, the lower body can not move, and sleepy. I was hospitalized and his wife decided to go to the hospital a few days let Yuesao, think first of all pregnant women in the school learned a lot: how to hold the child, change diapers, change clothes, feeding, Hong Shui, burping and so on; secondly, private hospitals environment is better, what problems can find a nurse, they will in time to come and help, so that we wait until after the aunt was discharged directly to make a good home. The results turned out that this is a very wrong decision, regret not let the first day aunt to come and help, we will discuss the reasons behind.
For the first time to coax the child, I feel that they have used up the effort, the results quickly become exhausted. Two days ago, a child will always sleep woke up, day and night. She woke up to feed her mother to hold for a while, because the wife is caesarean section, little milk, should be forced to squeeze out a little bit, sucking two children do not eat, I know for sure it had nothing to eat, so they continue crying , really no other way to look for nurses. The nurse came to help their children eat, two days before his wife was difficult because the only side with feed, nurse and mother to child Dounong a relatively comfortable position, let the children continue to eat.
According to the school for pregnant women, breastfeeding newborns must, first of all colostrum is very valuable, very helpful to the child's development; secondly, the child sucks, the mother will promote uterine contractions, to facilitate the recovery of the body; again is the fear of children eating a bottle, do not eat after breast milk. These nurses say so, so we insist that children breast-fed, although very hard to eat, we all get tired, but also determined not to listen to suggestions milk to feed my mom. My mother more enlightened, since that times are different, the nurse said more scientific, though she did not agree, but did not insist on formula milk. The results led the children hungry, stop crying. Later it is not, the nurse finally let go let the children eat 10 ml milk, baby bottles are fed me, eat with the kids that are really very hungry, I feel 10 ml not enough. Sure enough, after also eating mouth, tongue, the teacher said, this is a hungry child's performance. But my wife and let her eat any firm can not, on the grounds that, the teacher said, the first day of the newborn baby's stomach is only as big as peas, eat a lot of bad insisted. Finally with the help of nurses, child lying asleep on my chest, and all of them long forgotten time, just feel tired.
In this way, it lasted for two days and nights, the children hungry, to feed 10 ml milk. The next morning, the children first pull Baba, tar-like, blue black, viscous, which is called meconium. Me and my mom two people, me holding the baby, she gave the children wash the ass with a tap. Also in this morning, doctors rounds when he was a child there was a slight jaundice, is not serious, more than the sun, see if I can recover themselves. Wife the day began ambulation, the body gradually recover. That day, his wife from afternoon to evening, feed their children have to feed the eight or nine hours did not eat ...... really Meizhe, or to feed 10 ml milk, because I think, how many breast-fed children eat point out, milk powder still can not feed more, and we all say, newborn child afraid insisted, is not afraid of hungry, so it does not matter. Night is still, almost two hours or so to get up one hour: changing diapers, back to sleep, feeding and so on.
The last two days in hospital, the child jaundice is more serious, as if to around 14 a. The last photo is blue, Mommy loves to eat, Yinzhihuang, these are the doctor prescribed medicine. And later discharged after that Yinzhihuang can not feed their children, Mommy loves good, but Yinzhihuang not work, check the check also said a lot of side effects, it is best not to eat what medicine. So to stop immediately, and will be glad to eat three to five tons of it, why can the hospital opened the medicine so much? ? ? The last two days to give him a name, do a medical certificate of birth, was discharged. At this point the child and newborn when compared can be said that little yellow people.
Discharged from hospital early the next morning, I went to the nearby community hospital asked if he could measure jaundice, and my wife is very worried. I asked a few said no, I and his wife decided to bring the child to the hospital test, to see if there is no drop, arrived in the cell door, Yuesao come. Aunt daughter classmate's mother, who has been very good relationship, so it is reassuring, and aunt are very experienced and we were feeling really encountered a savior. Aunt listened to our experience in the hospital, just kept sighing, said milk is no more feed, but you fed too little, resulting in the child's meconium to now no complete row, which led to the birth of the child jaundice . Before she took the child, usually three days will be able to meconium drained, very few from jaundice. Listen aunt said, schools and hospitals are now pregnant then advocated, but the situation is different for each child, every mother physical conditions are not the same, they had a baby on a lot of people did not all photo books are paper, ah, you have to take a different approach depending on the circumstances. Both of us heard the more feel regret, regret not let aunt to the hospital as soon as possible, also heard the fear, these days in the hospital will not send their children to toss the bad, the aunt said never mind, soon enough. The aunt said that we were simply too reasonable, and after it is fully in accordance with the practice aunt, breast milk and mixed feeding, when to breast-feed, when to feed milk to feed a small amount of water between meals milk powder, whole listen aunt. 8:00 to 10:00, the sun 20 minutes the sun to the children, 15:00 to 5:00 and then the sun for 20 minutes a child is born probably in about fifteen days, jaundice and finally back over.
Aunt in 26 days, wife and aunt as well as your baby sleep master bedroom, second bedroom I slept. I can sleep sleep the whole day, with the child's aunt particularly good, especially at home to clean up clean, tidy, cook also particularly tasty. I feel the day seems to be back before the child is born, is occasionally how to bathe children with the aunt learn, learn how to stew wife, trotters soup, fish soup, pork ribs soup, chicken soup, etc., aunt learn to cook craft, craft aunt really stick ah! ! My days are easy, but the wife did not, and her aunt every night up to two to three times, powdered milk, feeding, burping, changing diapers, wash the ass, bottle brush, disinfection, breast, etc., simply sleep during the day and also sleep up to two or three hours so that "a pregnant silly three years" are tired, sleepy and do a mother is not easy. Fearing child red ass, aunt during the day is recommended for children with diapers, which requires the children to wash diapers. Every time I see the above Baba felt disgusting, but Aunt busy, I had to bite the bullet and go wash.
There was the time a child is suspected breast milk diarrhea, more often pull and foam, I took her Baba went to several hospitals had laboratory, said no problem, but also with breast milk to test before, is not the problem . Later, a small number of breast-fed little, a little more milk, her Baba will be better, the bubble is gone. Gradually, every time she was finished, my wife and are staring at Baba on diapers or diapers study for a long time in there, see if the child is not normal pull, children ate Abbott milk powder, there was a pull Baba rust sour, and now I have completely adapted it shares the taste, do not feel bad, ha ha.
I remember the beginning of time, Once I was leaving to go shopping, give the child weighed aunt said, the child was born two weeks weight had gone up, the first week has been down, we were in the hospital with an estimated error practice related. Aunt to the child diapers off, to just stand on the scale, we saw a yellow viscous liquid an ass gushing out from the child, such as emitted from the gun to the inside, get sheets, wall all, I was scared stunned, quickly said to go out to buy food. Think now, the children wash diapers, Baba got the hands, do not feel dirty, my wife boast progress, but she has grown used to.
Labor Day when the aunt is gone, my mom because my family something back home, leaving the three of us. I am duty-bound to act as naturally played a role aunt, daughter and quality of life must not fall ah! I filled day is so arranged: from 6:00 pm to work to start, probably 6:20 home, start cooking, dinner is usually a fried dish of porridge, millet gruel, black rice or rice pudding and the like, or steamed buns dry food and the like. After dinner began to wash the dishes backboard, then the next morning and at noon to prepare fried dishes, wash well, good cut, then the next morning to prepare raw meal of soup, a good wash, good cut, because in the morning and limited noon time ah. After these things right almost to 9:00, and then a pot of ginger water, feet to his wife, this is the aunt at the time to develop good habits. After the wife is to make a snack, usually a banana papaya milk or milk like bite it in the microwave and then eat some crackers or nuts. After start over wash, wash diapers, wash bottle, wash things like breast pump, and finally the washed bottles, breast pump split into separate parts into the sterilizer. Wife almost finished eating, Paowan feet, then we must prepare to sleep. Almost around 11:00, children can be back to sleep, we immediately fell asleep. Children usually at 1:00 pm, 4:00, woke up around 6:00, this time we should powdered milk, feeding, burping, changing diapers, back to sleep, wash bottles, wife 2:00 that even sucking. 6:00 that get that done almost on almost 7:00, and then they start to cook, stew. Eat breakfast with the night almost as well as a fried dish, porridge, dry food. After dinner, wash finished, soup almost Dayton Well, in general is now before the fish soup aunt learned, trotters soup, pork ribs soup, chicken soup and the like. Sheng bowl in the microwave, about 10 o'clock in the morning, his wife own heat it drink. Finally, the rice cooker stew, wash finished go to work. Noon probably about 12:10 home, two fried dishes, to eat rice stew good morning, had finished scrubbing pots dishwashing, or the morning of the soup bowl Sheng put a microwave oven, a wife is probably around 16:00 heat it up to drink. Is over wash diapers, sometimes there is no need to wash diapers. Then rest a little, two in the afternoon to go to work.
I am not feeling super-fulfilling? I will insist on such a life for a week, really tired. So I decided to find a nanny, asking many, there is no suitable, most are not assured, some not very satisfied, because there are students before the wife's mother to do the comparison. Finally there is a right, and consequently on a good, and intermediary contracts are signed, also signed aunt, the intermediary bank account gave me, and he sent the money transfer, the aunt suddenly said, I either quit, to dry to dry at least two years. Mediation and I was speechless, because the beginning is to try to say a month, and then decided to do, aunt said no, she did not want to dry the short-term. Finally broke up, the agency seems to have great views aunt.
Finally it is not, wife parents also have something at home, my parents also had not come, my grandmother lived to his wife to go home. What came good condition there, the house is very spacious, we are particularly attentive to take care of her grandmother, the only inconvenience is that I need to drive more than 40 minutes to work, but it did not matter what the. Now the children are grown up points, and need one or two up at night, and breastfed children now no problem, a lot easier, helping someone at home with children, relaxed too much.
With a baby this small, he said so much, it is not easy, every parent is not easy, especially my mother. But every time I see cute baby face, touched her soft feet moving, you will feel tired is worth it, the baby can be healthy and robust growth, that is the most important. But no matter how much we pay, we can not, as some parents do the same, forcing the child to do things according to their wishes, here I am reminded of Gibran said "The Prophet" in:
Your children are not your children,
They are eager for their own life and the birth of the child.
They help you come to this world, not from you,
They are with you, yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
Because they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls belong to tomorrow, beyond the dreams of yours arrives tomorrow.
You may strive to be like them, like,
Do not let them become like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows, children are emitted from you arrows,
Archer looked at the future of flak,
He bends you that His arrows may go swift and far.
Gladness, in the hands of the archers bend it,
Because he loves the arrow that flies, love bow that is stable.
"The Prophet" by Kahlil Gibran ---
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