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1. The process of "choosing a mate" | A female perspective - Missing excellent people
1. Not good enough
If you are not good enough yourself, then you will miss good people with high probability;
The older a woman is, the worse the people around her are, the sooner she finds her other half, the better;
Women should not give up on a man just because he is too career-minded, as long as he has no other partner, as long as he occupies the position of partner, then it’s fine, but because of self-esteem issues, there’s nothing you can do;
2. The self-esteem trap
Too much self-esteem is not good enough, this is a manifestation of insufficient IQ and EQ, people with high intelligence/ability/EQ will not take self-esteem too much,
- Useful for yourself: When self-esteem is useful, use it as an excuse, just make use of it, it is very useful; if it is beneficial to yourself and can bring benefits, use it;
- Useless to yourself: Sometimes, self-esteem is too important, self-esteem is very strong, and self-esteem is harmed in order to maintain self-esteem, then it is useless. If you are scolded, you will not lose a piece of meat, and you will be sent to detention if you dare to do it;
In a word, if self-esteem is good for you, you should have self-respect; if it is bad for you, you should be shameless;
At the critical moment, you must learn to be shameless, discard your self-esteem, and don't have any burden in your heart,
" I have a high degree of education, high awareness, a good family background, and a high level, and it's ugly to fall out with others, and I can't hold my face. " ,
Never have such burdens and thoughts in your heart;
Turn your face when you need to turn your face, fight when you want to fight, call the police when you should, sue when you should sue, don't be kidnapped by self-esteem;
3. Provide positive and negative value to the other party - negative value = work
If a woman is not good enough, the other party will neglect you more and more, look down on you, feel that the value provided by a woman is too low, and will break up;
- Positive value: High education, high IQ, high EQ, good comrades-in-arms, good partners, high reproductive value, rich family, provide emotional value, can take good care of the family;
- Negative value: not making money, poor ability, low IQ, work, waste of money, time wasting, constantly consuming your world/money, black hole of time and money, high investment without feedback;
If in your eyes, the negative value provided by the other party is higher than the positive value, then just divide and finish;
4. Breakup operation and reasons
Excellent men/women have a career and aspirations, if the other half is not good enough, but still very active, they will basically break up;
The reason why a man and a woman break up is that the better person thinks that the other is not worthy or important, and will start to reduce the investment of time/money in the other;
An excellent case of a man breaking up: Start to reduce investment, neglect the other party, and gradually aggravate the situation. The woman's self-esteem is hurt, and she proposes to break up, so it's like this; the low-level people have very strong self-esteem, what's wrong with it;
It is necessary to develop a good habit of being shameless from an early age;
5. Love is the blackmail of the poor to the rich
Now that you are an adult, don't try to tie each other to your feelings. The feelings here include:
- kinship: between relatives, father and son, mother and son, brother and sister
- Love: between husband and wife
- Friendship: pure nonsense
No emotion can be trusted in front of interests;
People who are not good, try to rely on the relationship between husband and wife to tie the other half, work hard, it is not feasible, you must provide your own value, the more unique the value, the better,
- good looking, reproductive value
- If you have children, use them to maintain the relationship
- You have a good family and your parents are rich
- Can do housework at home and take care of the family
- provide emotional value
- Highly educated, high IQ, very capable, is a very good partner, comrade in arms
Everything has a price, if the value you provide is worthless in the eyes of the other party, then you will break up;
Love is the blackmail of the poor to the rich;
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