Teacher Li Xiaolai talked about the topic of why you always "give up halfway" in the column "The Freedom Road to Wealth" in the APP. I think it is very good, and I took notes by the way.
If you feel that something needs hard work and persistence, then it is basically doomed to fail from the very beginning. Because it requires hard work and persistence, it means that you are unwilling to do it in your bones!
We encounter things that we don’t want to do, but reason tells us that we should do it. At this time, we need to mobilize our willpower to fight against the instinct of the body, suppress the thoughts of not wanting to do or escape, and do it forcibly.
The result is often that we feel very tired after not doing it for a while, because we consume a lot of energy in order to fight against the inertia of the body. At this time, we want to stop and rest for a while, and then go to do other things. Can't do it.
The word "persistence" has the taste of failure. If we insist on doing something, it means that we are unhappy and painful, and it goes against our own wishes.
No one needs to "persist" in playing games, "persist" in watching short videos, "persist" in going out to play; we need to "persist" in studying, "persist" in exercising, "persist" in work and so on.
We are looking for things that are "really fun", "I can't stop at all", and "I am in a hurry with someone who won't let me do it". To put it bluntly, we are to find our own interests.
If what you like to do is also very meaningful and can benefit others and the society, then congratulations, continue to develop this interest and become stronger and bigger.
If your interests are boring or even harmful, such as: smoking, drinking. Then you have to control yourself, change your interests, and find more meaningful goals.
When we do things, how do we remove the word "persistence" in front of it?
Teacher Li Xiaolai provided several ideas:
1. No matter what you do, before you start, you must try your best to give it a great meaning, even multiple great meanings.
For example, we do something to make the country rich and the people strong, which is good for the whole society, not just for ourselves. This spirit of dedication is the source of many people's hard work.
For example, Musk's wish is to bring humans to Mars. Regardless of whether this statement is true or not, the significance of this goal is significant enough.
2. When you decide to acquire a certain skill, after you have "thought to give it a lot of positive meaning", you can also try every means to give a lot of negative meaning to "existence without it".
You can make a list:
- If I don't have this skill, is there anything I can't do right now? No chance at all?
- Furthermore, what kind of difficulties will you encounter in the future? What opportunities will be lost?
- Who am I like if I end up not mastering this skill? How miserable is their life because of this?
This list makes full use of people's loss aversion mentality. First, we imagine that we have a certain skill and get tangible benefits. Then we come back to reality. At present, we have not mastered this skill. If we can't get it, in order to recover the "loss", we have to learn this skill desperately.
This is also the "end game thinking" from the back to the front. Assuming that we have reached the end and achieved success, we will go back step by step, what should be done at each stage, and what should we do now?
The power of "end-game thinking" is that we have already seen what success looks like in our hearts, the goal is already specific, and the path to achieve the goal is also clear. We just need to follow the path to achieve it step by step. This can guide our actions very well. Of course, the path of our illusion may be wrong, and we can slowly correct it in the process of doing it.
We need to delete the words "persistence", "effort", and "perseverance" from our dictionary, and transform the things we have to do into our own interests and hobbies, so as to achieve the kind of "who doesn't let me do it, I am in a hurry with whom." "It's hard not to do well.