Boldly guess, your family background is very ordinary, and your child is 985, which makes you very proud and respectful among relatives and friends.
You have to know one thing, the higher a person goes, the bigger the gap will be.
When your son was in elementary school, in a small place, the gap between the rich and the poor was at most that your parents earned a few thousand, and other people’s parents earned a few thousand more. They were all in the same class, it didn’t hurt, and there was no obstacle for everyone to communicate.
In high school, children with a level of 985 should go to the city's key points. There, some people's fathers are seated, and some people's fathers drive Rolls Royce. What's even more annoying is that some people not only have superior families, but also are smarter. His studies are top-notch, and the learning conditions provided by his family are very good, and it is not even a gap that he can bridge with hard work.
At the 985 University, just choose the major, your child will find more than 700 majors in the university, his parents only know doctors, teachers, accountants... few majors, and even want to use their life experience to boast I chose a major for him, and I didn't know what the reporting rules were and what parallel volunteering was.
And he found out that his classmate's parents had mobilized contacts for them, and asked a highly respected professor in the university or a professional professional reporting tutor to check and analyze the industry situation, consult the child's preferences, and choose a major.
When you enter 985, you pray that the major you choose together with your family is not a bad major, because after you find out that it is different from what you expected, changing majors in 985 is very difficult, very difficult, because there are too many excellent people, it is almost impossible difficulty. But your child is surprised to find that the classmate’s parents have not only chosen their major, but also planned their future postgraduate study abroad seven or eight years later, because they have the financial resources and foresight to plan so far, but your child has to take a step at a time.
University life is very colorful, and he may find that his classmates are more colorful, such as foreign exchange students, such as summer camps, such as clubs, such as musical instruments, such as expensive experimental equipment, such as a series of self-expanding projects that require financial support... , he may find that he has fewer topics to communicate with, and people are a little quieter. Guess what he will think.
After graduating from university, the face is to find a job and get married. Children who sit in the seat and drive a Rolls Royce certainly don't need to worry about work. Your child will be different. His parents are not easy, they need to pay back, his parents have been bragging among relatives and friends for so many years, and they are not good at ordinary jobs, so he has to talk about it to save face, and he has to find ways to make HR have a better impression of him. These years the industry has been cold, and you may not know how hard it is to find a good job, even if it is 985.
He worked hard for a long time at work, and wanted to exchange ideas and suggestions with classmates or friends, but found out that his classmates had a family business, or his parents’ RV was ready. His classmates were not in a hurry to find a job, and even wanted to go on a graduation trip first. .
When it comes time to get married, you definitely hope that your child will find a wife who has the same academic ability as him, right? However, girls in the marriage and love market are upwardly compatible. There is a high probability that they will not want to be with him if they have the same personal ability as him. The most important point , Are you ready to give him a house and a car? There is no need for expensive Fang Duohao's car, just like his ordinary classmates.
No way, you don't expect him to give back to your old couple, but you also earn money to buy a house and a car, right? When his RV is ready, he will be nearly 30 years old, will he be satisfied with the girls left for him to choose? And will you be satisfied?
At this time, he was surprised to find that his classmate who married early had already started posting big fat boys, cute children, beautiful wife and good figure. And he has to worry about the KPIs at work and the intrigue among colleagues. The phone call from home is your urging, saying that so-and-so introduced you again, the boss is not young and must get married this year. Guess what he would think, is he unwilling to get married?
Some people are more outstanding and lonely, and comparison is the root of all pain. Guess he can't catch up with others' starting point no matter how hard he tries, and no matter how he plans his life, he can't keep up with others' steps. Will he be so anxious that he wants to die, will he want to find someone to talk to, but his parents' poor thinking and shallow concepts make him unable to speak. He found that he had fallen out of his own circle, and his parents were still bragging about how good he was.
You don't know his experience and thoughts, but you are just surprised to find out, how did my child become indifferent and selfish after getting on 985?
I hope your child is not a noble son from a poor family, but he is in a bad mood today and doesn't bother to talk to you.