Pulling black is like giving the other party a dumb hole. You don't allow him to speak, but you also don't allow him to leave.
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"Under what circumstances would you block someone?"
Friends who are irrelevant, say things that are inappropriate; love is very hard, I really don't want to wrong myself anymore; when the conflict escalates, I don't want to quarrel anymore, and so on.
How many relationships stop at "the other party has turned on friend verification", and how many quarrels end in "the message has been sent, but the other party has rejected it"?
Someone asked me: Which do you think is more heartless, blocking or deleting friends?
I thought about it and said: delete friends. Because blocking can keep chat records, it seems too concerned.
In fact, blocking is not an end, but a means, and the feelings expressed in it are not that simple.
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Those who say that they don't fall in love have a person in their hearts who can't be loved.
A boy shared his story with me. When he was in school, he liked a girl who was like a star holding the moon. He chased after him for a long time, and he was ambiguous for a long time.
When he was about to call himself a boyfriend, the girl smiled and said to the acquaintance she met, "It's just a friend."
At that time, a game of Sims was popular, and he created a self, a her, and lived together in a big house.
Every day I see two characters eating and walking together, I will smile involuntarily, and then feel sad again.
He even reserved an open space in the game to place the tombstones of two people.
"Perhaps in the most unrealistic fantasy, I can grow old with her."
To say that the girl didn't like him, she didn't reject her outright. It took him two years to say "I think about it".
Before graduation, he didn't talk about the reason. On the train back to his hometown, he posted "Take care of yourself" and blocked her.
I asked him, "I just let it go, so why don't I delete my friends?"
He replied: "It's not so much cruelty, it's better to force myself to give up. Occasionally look at the chat records and tell myself that she doesn't love me."
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In this life, there will not be too many opportunities to die for a person.
For something like sincerity, use a little less, consume a little and fear a little, and tell the whole story not to be cherished. This is the most profound lesson.
It was said in "Evil in the East and the Poison in the West": You can't have it, the only thing you can do is not forget it.
But I want to say, if you can't have it, why don't you force yourself to forget? It's hard to let go, so don't give yourself a chance to miss. Just like until the wound heals, you can't let it get wet.
In the current era, two people who have a heart to be together can still connect with each other no matter how far they are.
For some people, getting it is a love, not getting it is a lesson.
This time I will start from blocking, I hope you are all well, but I don't know anything.
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说真的，比起删除好友，拉黑显得温柔一些。
拉黑更像是给对方点了哑穴，你不允许他讲话，却也不允许他离开。
蔡康永说过：“如果可以拉黑却不拉黑，就是同意别人伤害你。”
对于吵架中的情侣同样适用。在对方快要说出那句让自己崩溃的话之前，用拉黑斩断这次争吵，把对方拖进小黑屋，然后气消了再把他拉回来。
公司有个姑娘经常一言不合就把男朋友拉黑了，用她的话说：“我不拉黑他，等着他说难听话刺激我吗？”
她把男朋友截图给她的聊天记录发到群里，我们都笑了。
这波操作可以说是求生欲很强了。
男朋友被她拉黑的时候，知道说什么她都看不到，就放狠话解气。
过了一会儿看到女朋友解除了拉黑还主动找自己说话，立马心软下来，画风突变成温柔男友，两个人和好如初。
真正的拉黑，不是在这些软件上，而是打心眼儿里。
对方但凡是做出任何激怒你的行为，都是宣告着舍不得。
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敢拉黑对方的，都是被偏爱的那个人，仗着安全感和对方沉甸甸的爱，在爱情里撒野。
要多么深厚的感情，才会在拉黑之后不分开？
相信很多人都经历过这样的时刻：
吵架之后光速拉黑对方——“不听解释不听不听”
拉黑之后心里放狠话——“再跟你和好我就是狗”
辗转反侧过了几天——“汪汪汪”
我听一个相恋十年的朋友说过：“羡慕那些一吵架就能拉黑对方的姑娘，羡慕她们的爱情，热闹又安心。像我跟他，在一起这么久，现在一个星期也说不了几个字。就算我拉黑他几天，估计他也发现不了，不说了该回家做饭了。”
两个人在一起，的确需要点烟火气的调节，但感情最好的形容词，其实是相濡以沫。
最开始爱上的时候，爱情都如童话般美好，但时间久了，王子也会秃顶，公主也会打呼，当初热爱天台外的景色，都再没心情看过。
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我觉得，爱是通过一段时间才抵达心脏的，抵达以后，你的心就是他、才是他、也只有他 。
我们看不到空气，却是真的呼吸着，胸口不觉得满当，心也是用力跳动着。
Some feelings don't need to be said and don't need to be found. The honey water in the morning, the hot milk in the evening snack, the hangover medicine in the drawer and the ginger syrup in the thermos are all evidences of love.
If you can threaten a person with "Ignore you", that person must love you very much.
Because he thinks about the days without you, he is reluctant to argue with you.
Wake up to see him, turn around and have him, not afraid of being blocked, and no need to rely on threats to find a sense of existence, it is a better love.
For girls, I block you, but I just want you to coax me.