He would not listen because the moment you spoke it led to his rebellious psychology.
First of all, children also have a rebellious period. In the infant stage, every six months is a stage. At the age of two and a half, you will feel that he is a little rebellious and will not listen to anything. When you are 3 years old, you will find him again. Somewhat good. This is determined by the law of children's own development.
So what if the child is rebellious and doesn't listen when reasoning? Blaming and criticizing the child will only make the child more resistant and may solve the temporary problem, but it will not have a beneficial effect on the child's growth, and it will even be unfavorable in the long run.
When children are rebellious and disobedient, parents must also see the changes in their children. They gradually have their own ideas and begin to think about problems. For children, this is a kind of growth, and parents should make reasonable dredges. And boot.
So how to guide it?
1. Think about the problem from the perspective and standpoint of the child
Children sometimes make unreasonable requests or deliberately do wrong things. You must investigate clearly why the child does this and what his mental activities are like so that he can help him in the next step.
2. Communicate well with children with a sympathetic attitude
After understanding the child’s psychological activities in the previous step, the next step is to communicate with the child in a sympathetic attitude and tone. For example, you really want the toy but you didn’t get it, so you are unhappy, right? You want to eat cookies. Mom didn't give it to you, so you are very angry, right?
Be careful not to judge the child, don't directly say what the child is doing badly, what is wrong, but to understand the child, even if you can't understand, calm down with anger and communicate with understanding and sympathy.
The purpose of this is to first eliminate the child's rebelliousness, offset his resistance, and let him feel that you understand him, then he will gradually calm down and listen carefully to what you are saying.
3. Calm down for a while when unable to communicate
If your child is unable to calm down, you can leave for a while and tell your child to talk to you when he calms down. Then you walk away firmly and communicate again when he calms down.
In fact, communicating with children is an art. The most important thing is to let the children feel understanding and sympathy, and then persuade and educate them, and in the end they will gradually change.
I am Minghua's father, welcome to further exchanges.