I especially like the words of the famous psychologist Jung.
When your subconscious does not enter your consciousness, that is your destiny. —— Jung
Last night, a reader chatted with me privately about how you persisted in doing one thing for a long time. I did not reply in time at the time. I think this is related to many factors. I thought about it all night last night and wanted to share some personal experiences with you in detail through this article.
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Learned helplessness
Every one of us has been instilled in various family and social concepts since we were young, which has led to our "learned helplessness".
"Learned helplessness" is a psychological concept, and scientists have done experiments on animals. When a dog is kept in a cage and given electric shocks every day, for the first time this kind of dog will struggle to escape. Later, I found that no matter how hard I tried, I couldn't escape. Later, I became helpless. Every time I was shocked, I would not struggle.
When the dog is placed in a field without a door and shocked it again, it can only tolerate it silently, rather than escape. This is "learned helplessness."
When we are baptized by some family concepts or social concepts day after day, learned helplessness will appear in our growing up. Our brain subconsciously thinks that something can't be changed by ourselves, so we can only follow the key of the past to adapt.
Similarly, when we start to have some ideas and want to persist in doing something for a long time, we always struggle once or twice and find that there is no effect. Later, we simply give up easily. This often happens to most people. .
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Break fear
Fear often makes us irrational. For example, when we were young, when we were playing in the mud or fighting, many parents would reprimand loudly. At this time, the content of the child is full of fear. Faced with fear, the brain subconsciously quickly makes two kinds of Choose between two extreme ways of "war" or "escape".
For example, a person’s fear of snakes in the grass when he was a child would never go to a place where the grass is lush. This way of escaping solves the current problem dominated by fear.
We grow up, work, and have our own lives. This fear may come from life, from society, and so on. Similarly, we are subconsciously dominated by these fears.
For example, the boss orders overtime. Although many people have complaints, they can only bite the bullet and work overtime. This is also a kind of fear from the outside world. People are subconsciously afraid of losing their job and can only choose to work overtime honestly.
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Unanimous commitment
Commitment and unanimity mean that words and deeds are consistent. That is to say, once a person promises something verbally or psychologically, then he will have a binding force in his heart, and there is a high probability that he will subconsciously urge himself to complete it.
If others ask you to do a thing to what extent you want to accomplish it, you may not be able to accomplish it. If you promise to do a thing yourself, it will be accomplished with a high probability.
For example, I usually promise to write articles or organize articles with big guys. I promised everyone that I will drive to do it myself. So for me, there is a high probability that I can persist in doing one for a long time. Things.
This is also the reason why I often promise something to everyone on the open platform, which makes me spend more time and effort to complete the things I promised.
summary
In the end, the final result I got is that the greatest enemy of man is not others, but himself. Many times, including Brother Lu himself, sometimes work or study is not in a state of state. In fact, this has nothing to do with the outside world, but we always attribute it to external reasons, such as complaining about other people's interruptions, or other factors.
Later, I gradually discovered that if most of the factors are attributed to oneself, then these can be changed and adjusted. For example, at this time, I have no state to study. The first thing to do is to experience the inner emotions and myself, and judge whether I can change because of my lack of state. This method later I found that it is very useful for self-regulation. .