01, feeling of depression
Depression, generally refers to apathy and depression, and is mostly used for negative people; sometimes it is also used elsewhere. For example, there is a sentence in the seventh and sixth chapters of "A Dream of Red Mansions": "Because I sighed again:'The poetry is solid and novel. It's just a little bit depressed!'"
In any case, the topic related to this word is rarely seen in the circle of friends; because people need to establish a positive image of positive energy.
As for me, I am a more casual programmer. When I was depressed, I also posted a circle of friends saying:
Because of the cold and fatigue, the whole person was particularly depressed, so I took the opportunity to indulge myself. I stayed up late and finished "Chang'an Twelve Hours". I thought this TV series was only 12 episodes. I thought about watching it all at once. Who knows there are still 12 episodes after the 12 episodes, my God.
After I finished the TV series, I didn't think it was enough, so I chased the TI9 game of DOTA2 again. It was eight years ago when I first hit Dota.
My intention was to seek comfort, but many old readers left a message and said, "Second brother, can you write an article about this anxiety and depression to share?" I thought, treating myself as a negative textbook for everyone For a little reference, just write.
However, I regretted it a little bit before I wrote it. Maybe this will provoke a lot of critics: "Can you write something positive and optimistic!" But the old readers have been promised, we " cannot retire ". !
02, the cause of depression
In the long journey of life, there will always be people who are inexplicably depressed.
The cause of my depression is quite simple, it is a cold. There are two types of colds, one is wind-cold and the other is wind-heat. I belong to the former type. On such a hot day, I am particularly afraid of the cold. I have a headache when I blow on the air conditioner. I can’t stop blowing it. On a hot day, I have to add a vest—it looks stupid. The other is nasal congestion, severe nasal congestion, you need to open your mouth at night.
I don’t know who said: “It takes one week to take medicine for a cold, and seven days if you don’t take medicine.” It’s really helpless. I have taken a lot of Fenghan cold granules, which is of little use. My friend recommended “ginger” The secret recipe of "silk + wolfberry + brown sugar" boiled for ten minutes is not very effective.
As a result, this physical malaise caused mental depression. I can’t read books, I can’t keep writing, and I don’t want to deal with work. The boss calls me to go to work, but I don’t want to go. It feels very boring.
In short, I don't want to do any serious things . How can you survive the 24 hours a day?
Watching TV shows is a wonderful way, haha. The night before yesterday, I was stunned and brushed until more than two o'clock in the middle of the night, my eyes were too tired to open, and people were very sleepy, but I just couldn't bear to go to sleep. Tan Qi's yell unexpectedly awoke the sleeping wife abruptly. She was very annoyed when she saw that I was still playing the drama, and she just unplugged the power and berated me to go to sleep.
There was no other way but to lie down on the bed, but couldn't sleep anyhow, tossing and turning, feeling that the endless darkness was about to swallow myself.
03, the pressure of survival
To be honest, the pressure of survival in this society is still quite large-society is to blame again.
I'm basically in a state of giving up my main job. Going to the office is to give myself a reason not to stay at home. The reason for not resigning is that commuting hours are relatively free, and I can take my daughter to and from school. The key is to earn some pocket money by the way.
These days, if the elderly cannot help take care of the children, they really need a free time to commute. My wife is not as free as I am because of the work system; in addition, her working environment is much better than mine, so she earns more than me.
But having said that, both of us are considered middle-class income, and there is no shortage of food or clothing (compared to the top and the insufficiency more than the bottom).
The inner anxiety mainly comes from how to get to the next level!
Many old readers know my source of income. Salary is one aspect, outsourcing is one aspect, and the cost of writing is one aspect. The revenue of the official account, which had high hopes, has not been able to open up the situation (this may be the main cause of anxiety).
Because of writing, I have met a lot of bigwigs (everyone earns tens of thousands of dollars a month, many, many), and I have asked them a lot of experience, but many of these operable methods are too lazy to practice, and I am ashamed and ashamed.
04、Depressed people like me
Because of writing, I have known many readers, and some frustrated programmer colleagues will come to me for advice every three to five.
For example, Xiao He said (I in brackets means "I"):
Second brother, first of all thank you for being able to pass a friend (this is really no thanks, I would love someone to find me, come and add me).
I am 32 years old and graduated from an unknown college (I am also afraid of mentioning the name of the school or embarrassing the school). Currently in deep drift, engaged in the development of Java background. So far, there is no decent result (really, me too).
I have also written a technical blog for two years, and this month I started to make my own official account (and do it and cherish it, it’s really difficult). But the energy is indeed not as good as that of young people, and there is the burden of family, and my level is limited. I want to be excellent, but I always feel that my skills are not as good as others.
With increasing age, lack of energy, family responsibilities, and career aspirations, I would like to ask how my second brother balances all kinds of pressure.
When I met such a reader, the first thing I thought of was to give him a big hug. I really don't have any good suggestions.
I have met a lot of master-level characters, and whenever you ask a question, he can give long advice like a magic. At that time, in addition to saying "I have been taught", another red envelope of "66.6" yuan was issued.
It is estimated that there are not a few people who fall into trouble like me and occasionally become depressed. This reminds me of Tolstoy’s words in "Anna Karenina": "Successful people are successful, and unsuccessful people have their own failures." (Adapted slightly)
05, how to get out of depression
The way to get out of depression is simple: watch TV shows!
Although I am joking, this is really a method I am practicing. As for human beings, there are always seven emotions and six desires. The ups and downs of life must be tasted to be considered complete.
In "The Twelfth Hours of Chang'an", an official of the Jing'an Division once said to his wife (the one whose uncle let go to Luoyang):
I didn't think about how old I would be to be an official. I just thought that when Jing An got into trouble, I could go back and help.
That's right, there are always some awesome people in the world (Zhang Xiaojing, Long Bo, Li Bi); but more ordinary people.
I remember two supporting roles most vividly: one is Cui Qi and the other is Yao Runeng.
Cui Qi wanted to look like in the beautiful Chang'an. Brother Xi paved a lot of roads for him. In order to be promoted, he even betrayed Zhang Xiaojing; but in the end, he died in the Jingan Division as a glorious soldier.
Yao Runeng, carrying a heavy burden, his grandfather is Ming Xiang Yao Chong, he also betrayed; but he desperately made Tanqi.
People, it’s not about how high the heart is—this is not a golden mean, this is the truth. Cui Qi and Yao Runeng have both fallen into depression, but how did they get out? Choose the "good" one.
Still because of my writing, some readers praised me as awesome, better than many. I listened to words like this and thanked them for their compliments, but I knew how much I was. I'm not good (a fact of iron hitting), and I'm also running hard; but I may have ran three thousand steps forward and then backed two thousand steps after a while .
06, finally
As for me, when I was depressed, I chose to let myself be depressed; but when I got out of the depressed, I would run forward like a chicken blood.
What about you What to do when you are depressed?
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