When children are isolated, their parents or mental health of the first responsible person.
March 3, Shijiazhuang, fifth-grade children because online classes are not serious, the morning was reprimanded parents:
"do not learn at home, online classes are not actively ......"
Then, children will be desperate to jump off the upstairs. 
Source: Watermelon video
until the parents find it's too late, now parents of children around, looking at the child lying in a pool of blood, wringing:
"I should not call you, you should not be forced to do their homework, I will not force you learned ...... " in these circumstances, touch on raw so my heart, heart Duzhe pimple, why the 12-year-old children and their parents Yiyanbuge, they use their lives to punish parents.
"What's the last straw breaks the child is?"
Some people say that stress this class; Ability to Resist Frustration was said to be bad; it was also strange in online head ...... 
but does anybody ever think that maybe love is the name of the parents, their own mouth a seemingly normal reprimand, but it is the end of life of children fuse. 
Child hungry and sleepy and fell down grievances, and will pounce on her mother's arms.
Now big but rather broken teeth swallowed stomach, preferring locked himself, preferring to collapse into tears, even at the moths, not to tell their parents.
If I had to focus on the child's emotional state, I think they will certainly will not make that choice.
02
"Mom and Dad, I know you hate me."
Parents and children, primitive as positive and negative magnetic field, opposites attract.
Since when, magnetic family disappeared, and even same-sex repulsion?
Communication is not in place because of family problems, leading to the suicide of a child is not the case:
in February last year, started school on the fourth day, Bao'an District of Shenzhen City, a 13-year-old boy fell to his death near home.
The reason is because winter job is not completed, the teacher reprimanded once home to make winter operations. 
Prior to this, mother and teacher issues discussed are still full screen summer job. 
On the way to hospital, they found the child had already tried wrists. Your child's psychological problems are not unexpected.
Boy after the accident, four suicide note he left behind for us to expose his inner world.
The first letter to my sister does not like you, often quarrel, but I go, or I hope you do not be sad.
The second letter to Aunt you are good to me 3 individuals (the first one of the two grandparents) ......
third letter to grandma and grandpa's most worried about is the two of you ...... 500 lucky money left to you.
Finally, a letter to parents, "Mom and Dad, I know you hate me, I'm gone, please do not be sad ......"
"Mom and Dad, I know you hate me."
This sentence so much heartache and self-blame parents, in the end what is the reason this child mistakenly believe that their parents hate myself.
In the end we convey to the children how the emotional world? Live and let him become an island.
Behind the empty child, and my heart hurt I am afraid to tell my parents.
03
"Of course you can be angry, but please take good angry."
Do not know when, and we children became mortal enemy, and even said a word tired.
Epidemic period, when children are online at home after school, many parents do to bring a lot of burden.
Previously, a Buddha Department of Dad's crazy popular online class work on the hot video search, because the child did not finish the job on time, the original Buddha Department Qiqiaoshengyan father:
"do not do, tomorrow I put all your teacher pull the black . " "
I want to delete a letter to all teachers micro children, including physical education teacher. " "
I could not even dream at night you dream teacher in my bed stood in a circle, have asked me to work. " 
Coincidentally, the net class crazy more than one example, a mother to find on the seven hospitals in Hangzhou adolescent psychology Dr. Wang:
Chen Qing son had excellent results, sensible and well-behaved. But because the reason the epidemic, the whole school classes online at home, but she has become a nightmare.
After the end of each class network evening, his son will be "crazy": do not listen to reason, a criticism breaking things.
Chen Qing daily reluctant to go home, just out of sight, there is a head-up anger with a child, the result of his son angrily ran out of the house, thanks to strict prevention and control because the district, to find her son.
Low efficiency of the e-course will make many children to question their abilities: I learned not to go, is not familiar with the teacher I did not understand, and then like this will not keep my grades ......
every question will make children irritable, more the more agitated listen, the more children listen to their parents more anxiety, more anxious to unload the mood could not help, resulting in a vicious cycle.
But this is not the fault of the e-course, wrong is that we put the wrong target to vent anxiety. 
A father a mother, originally a flesh and blood, face lazy, children make mistakes, get angry will angry, is human nature.
But some parents are angry will not take too much force, the negative emotions transferred to the attack on the child's personality.
Taiwan's NGOs have been invited passersby to experience the feeling of being reprimanded parents. 
"You're so selfish, we have been a drag on you! Really feel very ashamed !"
"Our family did not freak you this child, go out do not say I am your mother !"
" You really are not used , see you hate, you in the end who is born? "
" you are a money-losing , too regret giving birth to you! I had known you now, I should have had to strangle you! " 
face adult storm-like attack, there is a girl choked crying, she was scared, fear, feel that their life is a failure, because this image of her experiences as a child, though she already knew that the adult is a parent's angry words. 
Even an adult can not stand the personality attacks, let alone a child!
Everyday careless words, or unintentional act, will let the children learned helplessness, forget the lights behind.
Between you and your child, you must have a sober person, make sure you love him to eleven received.
We can be ignorant, but not reckless, not attack.
04
"You do not shut up, the children how to say?"
Some people say that is not on a network class, a criticism it?
Children can have a big deal, he says it makes a person think of a way, not to solve it? This punishment than parents with what this life then what of it?
But the last straw breaks the child, and not just in the morning, then the phrase was reprimanded, but over time, if the mountain is pressing him breathless disappointed, frustrated ......
before doing children's psychological counseling, to each after the child counseling 40 minutes, 20 minutes later it is a good parent communication. The total group of 10 family groups 9 puzzled: how could he talk to you so much, I asked him what he always reluctant to chat with me?
I replied: active listening.
After all, compared to temper tantrums, not a good listener is a lot of Chinese parents' problems. 
Like her father Jiaojun Yan and performance in the program "my home girl" in that.
Dad said: "If there is anything you usually remember to tell us that happiness is to keep your family to share a double happiness."
Fail to beat the father of her direct expression: . "Painful to tell you, I would get double the pain."
" after you finished with me, you can not solve this problem, then you also have to ask many, many questions. " 
Why Jiaojun Yan father so decisive and communication, in fact, from the beginning of the program can be seen.
Dad on the program will open a picky: "She would dress like children, I have suspected her soil." "Silt usually dressed with a child like ......" 
When we eloquent, our ears have lost their hearing.
"Mother of the mouth ah, loud shout, all Huodehenlei day ......" The friends of the accused might say the children's voices. 
If we do not shut up, the child will never express.
05
Every sentence "is hello"
are forced to love the name
When we roar of the child, in fact, very easy excuse: "I do call you, you are good!"
But if we ever thought:
every sentence "as hello", are forced to love the name. 
The name of love, carrying conditions, the control of the real line.
In "Young said," in a girl seven years learning dance, gifted also interested, but in the end the mother was ordered to halt because of the impact study. 
When the first girl courage, carefully standing on the rooftop against her mother speak his own mind, but then the audience mother filed a condition: "before the next exam into the year 100 let you learn . " 
Mother and two communication impasse suddenly, abruptly girl was in tears, the mother rushed backward and said: at least before 150.
Girl finally complete collapse: such high expectations, I - can not do! 
Conditional love, so that children's emotional problems iceberg hidden under the surface calm, but under the water is simmering.
Suffered emotional collapse even before the major events coming to an extreme way to deal with.
In June last year the college entrance examination, there will be a candidate after reading mathematics papers, suddenly nervous breakdown fell to the ground, laughing and crying. 
This control type of love, but also affect the child's personality: sensitive, low self-esteem, lack of recognition, lack of people skills.
Do you think drinking tube to eat tube, pipe tube life is the love of learning was full.
But Wu Zhihong has said: that children with psychological problems, in fact, not the parents' love too much ", but the all" too little love. "
Unexpected. 
When we see that this conclusion is certainly confusion: all my body fall from the flesh, I can not wait to give his heart out, how could love enough?
This time the parents Reflection: We are not ...... love wrong?
06
Home is a haven for the soul, not the court debate.
We do not act as police and judges, always correct the child's error.
But as a painter, with his words and deeds, a sum of ink to describe this white paper. Like family medicine academician Zhong Nanshan of the same family.
Zhong Nanshan, a living with their father became a replica of a lifetime to "save lives." His son bell but Germany, but also continue to follow Zhong Jialiang good family tradition. 
Family Education is the essence of personality penetration, mouth rather than leather.
Your love is constantly accused of criticism? Or empathy?
Your expectations are stimulated with other people's children? Or to help him find a unique bright spot?
Your company is only valued score, making up supervision, or with a parent-child reading instead of urging ...... 
A poem said: "There was a child went forth every day, what he saw at first, it becomes ...... what if it is early open morning glory, then it will become part of the child; if it is messy weeds, then it will become part of the child. "
as a parent, you are the sun of the morning glory, or messy weeds?
Do not shiftless own absurd to survive, kidnapped the child must be the fame.
You want children to be kind of person, first of all have to be such a person.
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